That’s the thing, through all of this, she isn’t even thinking that I have just lost my mum as basically she is making out that it is all about her.Kikki maybe it will work out better if your cousin is too busy to do the executor work, maybe she will be happy for you to do as much as you can it, just keeping her and other executor updated on the process. Obviously some of it they will have to do themselves.
Now I do really think you need to be very careful though, especially if the relationship is a little strained....the last thing you want is to set yourself up for any conflict or accusations, it is after all the legal duty of the executors to administer the estate, but depending on the relationships and the fact that the executors don’t really want to do it, it could work for all of you, but really do be careful.
I really do feel for you having this to deal with as well as the loss of your Mum x
I really don’t know what my mum was thinking in making her executor. Like it or not, she has duties to fulfil & there is only so much I can do.
I haven’t got an issue with the other executor but the fact is he isn’t local & would have to take time off work to do stuff. And she is family & he isn’t x