I joined this forum in June 2015 when my mother first began showing signs of forgetfulness. Now, four years later (typically for elderly dementia sufferers) at nearly 94, Mum's deterioration has been painful to witness but no change to circumstances in those four years. We are not further forward in getting Mum to agree to accepting any support/help, despite many calls and emails to social care and Mum's GP. A paramedic contacted my brother and me today (in response to my emails to Social Care) and advised us to get Mum to agree to go to a GP for urine, blood and blood pressure checks. We think she will refuse to go nor would she agree to a paramedic coming to her home. We are both seeing Mum next week for a last ditch attempt to persuade her to visit her GP or agree for a paramedic to visit to carry out routine tests. Both of us know what the answer will be. At nearly 94 it probably won't be poor memory, eyesight, hearing or mobility but more a crisis then hospital then care home or the inevitable. Goodbye and thank you. Mrs Christmas.