I just feel sad , mum & dad had us young , my dad died at 72 and Mum is 70 , feel I will lose them both at relatively young ages , it can’t be helped but I just wish they had had a retirement of sorts , dad was too poorly so they had not had any real good times since he was 60. It’s not the right attitude I know I just feel they were a little hard done by, they had a very hard life and lost 2 children . Not sure about the getting dressed late, most days now she doesn’t even get dressed. I ache today in strange places but boy the fence looks niceThere certainly is no justice to it. For me I have to remind myself that up to 89 years old Mum was still having a good life driving and socialising and otherwise was generally fit and healthy.
On the positive it is funny how your hubby can get your Mum giggling like a child, my OH can do that as well. Yet it would take me hours to get a laugh. I guess for me it is the different relationship.
It sounds like you had a productive fence painting day and good on youngest making lunch. Sorry to hear the evening dipped a little. I wonder why your Mum is not getting dressed until 7pm, I am not sure if I have read that as a behaviour on this forum.
I don’t think right or wrong attitude comes into it. It does feel like they were hard done by. Times have changed ‘since the bad old days’ and I think everyone expects rightly a little bit of time after retirement nowadays to have some good times to do something they have always wanted to do but couldn’t because work got in the way.I just feel sad , mum & dad had us young , my dad died at 72 and Mum is 70 , feel I will lose them both at relatively young ages , it can’t be helped but I just wish they had had a retirement of sorts , dad was too poorly so they had not had any real good times since he was 60. It’s not the right attitude I know I just feel they were a little hard done by, they had a very hard life and lost 2 children . Not sure about the getting dressed late, most days now she doesn’t even get dressed. I ache today in strange places but boy the fence looks nice