Most of us have heard the joke about the goldfish in a tank with a really beautiful model castle and it keeps swimming by it ............. etc. A friend (Santa's little helper) got me a load or little presents for Monique for Christmas. I wrapped them up and have put them all under the tree which ,the carer Astrid decorated (with I suspect zero help from Monique), a few days ago, whilst I was 'out'.... Yesterday for the first time I pointed out to Monique the 'sock' and all the presents falling out of it... lovely she said. Today, I have at regular intervals pointed out the sock and presents and every time, she has expressed surprise and delight. I now know that if I show her the presents beneath the tree at 10 minute intervals she will express surprise, pleasure and delight.. been doing it all evening... Sort of brings it all home doesn't it? Actually not that funny a joke.. Recent days have also been 'active' with phone calls from my two children.. I decided the time had come to 'register' the POA and sent of the completed form together with sending the kids the 'informing' papers, so they can object if they want.... Fascinating - phone calls - could it be a good idea to create a trust fund for Monique? - should we all discuss it? - We need to protect Monique financially... Interesting............. A couple of visits in the last 3 years. Some phone calls, very busy people... Important jobs... so much to do so little time....... In France there is a law (as I understand it) that says 'family' are responsible for members of the family who are ill....... basically it means I am legally obliged to look after Monique (but I am a Brit and could do a runner!) My Kids are then equally responsible (but cannot be touched in the UK) and following that her brother who is French... He is of course very nervous as if I just took the dosh and went he would have to (pay) to look after Monique....... My kids are now afraid that if I put Monique into a home one day in the near or distant future I might find myself a 'bimbo' and they would then loose their inheritance... The way I feel at the moment (after a little wine and more whiskey) is that they should all be very very afraid!!! Hardly a word or any real help till the cashpoint 'twinkles'... Love and casting bread on water seems to be conditioned by the value of the £. Sorry about all that above at Christmas but I sort of needed to get it off my chest.. ~Got a turkey but ........... Love to you all Michael PS Just re-read the above and it looks a little paranoid.. Probably I am - you can cope most of the time but sometimes it gets to you - well its getting to me a bit this Christmas.. Still there is a new year blooming!