Hi every one I have not been on the site for awhile because I have bee under so much pressure with Mum. I was told when putting her into te home just to say is was for a few weeks and she wuld soon settle and forget. Well she diddnt, every visit has been absolutley awful she has been so abusive o me and my children wanting to knowwhen she can go home and on occasion demanding I take her. She escaped once andlocked her self in and only withthe help of a kind policeman did I manage to get her back to the home. She starts phoning meas soon as I get in from work and if I do not answer she will continue to ring and leave messages, or get the evening staff (who do not seem to be as on the ball as the day staff )that if I do not talk to my mum she will not settle. In the mean time I have had to put her house on the market to finance the home. Also try to clear the thirty pluss years of rubbish that has been collected. Mum escapd again last week went home again let her self in (the home had told me they had got the key off her) and discovered what was going on. She then left the house and got lost luckly she had her address book and a kind lady who found her roaming phoned my son or directions to take her back. I was then told by the new manager that mum had gone over the fence (quite funny )and that I should never been put in this position of having to lie. I have kept away this weekend because it has al made me so ill. I did go to the house to clear more rubbish only to find a vey nasty message she left in the dining room for me. All of my aunts and uncles have tried to tell her how I have nearly killed my self trying to keep her at home but in the end she was just to ill for me to manage, but she talks about me a if I was something nasty on her shoe. I feel so low now I am not looking after my own family and have decided to go to doctor for help. Sorry to rant but I needed to get it out