Going on alone

[Izzy]

Oh Izzy, and the same good wishes to you! You were the first person who made me feel less alone all those years ago. X

It does seem a very long time ago now!💜

 

[sunray]

Where does the time go? Here we are approaching another Christmas. I have been busy all year, with church activities, the Lions Club I have belonged to now for 23 years, and socialising with friends and family. I have plenty to do though doing it alone is not always fun. But there are still good times to be had. And a lot to be thankful fof.

I finally went out to visit my daughter, son-in-law and granddaughter in Kalgoorlie Western Australia in April. This Christmas I am spending with my son Trevor and granddaughter Alice in Broken Hill. I am in reasonable health, both my brain surgeon and my oncologist have discharged me so my ongoing healing is in my own hands now. I'll see the physiotherapist once a year to keep an eye on the lymphoedema.

I hope my widowed friends are all well, finding plenty to do and living a fulfilling life. I know that does not happen to all but if you can find a balance in widowed life it does make a difference. I guess I am accepting the dysfunctions of old age somewhat philosophically, no other choice really. I am glad of a chance of an afternoon nap and a slower pace of life now.

By coincidence I will see two of my granddaughters this week,, Tori from Adelaide who is visiting her mother in a nearby suburb and Naomi from Kalgoorlie who is staying with me for a few days as she has been visiting with girlfriends for a week. Of course that makes me I a lucky Grandma. Then of course I may feel a tad lonely when this is over but life will be busy anyway with the run-up to Christmas.

 

[Grannie G]

Lovely to hear from you @sunray I love the way old members return for a catch up.

I accept the reality of ageing and try to concentrate on what I can do rather than what I’m now less able to do. My life is not as full as it was but I wouldn’t be able to keep up with the pace if it even tried.

Take care.

 

[sunray]

Here is a new year. Some say a new start but my life seems to just roll on day after day. I used to be worried I would not survive Ray's death but after a couple of years I managed to go on alone. Now most of my friends have no recollection of him. That is sad in a way but saves talking about his death I suppose. I have my son Trevor and daughter Alice staying for a couple of weeks, going home on the 14th. That makes for a good start.

So wishing you all whatever you would like 2024 to be to be happy.

Sue

 

[canary]

Hello @sunray

Im glad you ahve got your son and daughter staying with you.
This period of Christmas/New Year always seems to me to be a period of forced jollity. Im glad things are getting back to normal (whatever "normal" is!) here and I hope 2024 is a better year for you
xx

 

[Grannie G]

Happy New Year @sunray Enjoy your time with your son and daughter. xx

 

[sunray]

Son Trevor and granddaughter Alice went home last Saturday, the house sounds empty without them. Several of my older friends died over the Christmas period. Three funerals already involving church people. I'm still involved in ministry, may pastoral care. As the saying goes: "You can do anything as long as you don't have to be paid for it." Certainly applies to my work.

It's a mixed blessing , life at my age. Now the decision to go on with last year's activities, to change some of them or stop some of them to give myself more free time which I need as I age. I admit I get tired more quickly now. I appreciate the health I have, my ability to still drive etc as I know that doesn't always apply at my age. Still feel the loss of Ray, I guess that is going to be the case as long as I live.

 

[Grannie G]

Good to hear from you @sunray and that you are still managing your activities.