If I don't get help soon, it will not be Mum going into a home it will be me. I have had her with me 24/7 for 10 weeks. I cannot go to the supermarket, have a shower, use the internet (unless like now, when I have plied her with gin and so she is asleep) is driving me nuts. From about 4am she is up and about, I try to ignore her but if I go to the bathroom she says "good morning" like it is 7:30. I go straight back to bed, get up at 7am and then it starts, "how far is my home from yours, where are my boys" loop the loop until I get her into bed. If I try to have a conversation on the phone with friends or family she is there, listening and getting arsey because she is not the centre of attention. I have told her that when she was my age, 65, she was off travelling the world with my Dad and had left my nan for me and my brothers to look after and then when it became obvious that my nan had dementia they put her in a home. I have said why don't you go into a really nice home, we can all afford a really good one with hairdressers on site and spas etc but oh no, she would rather make our lives a misery.
I have tried all these private home care companies who say they cannot come out due to the corona virus, I have also tried contacting three private homes n the area who again will not let us check them out and want to do a video tour. Clearly this is not good enough, I would want to really check things out and make sure they are suitable for Mum but no one wants to know. So going back to where this started, how do I get help? They all seem to be scared to death of this virus. I am not and really do not worry about checking out these facilities and homes, if I get it, I get it. At least this misery will be over because with the pains in my chest and stomach not to mention the fracture in my marriage due to this I cannot see a way out.
I have tried all these private home care companies who say they cannot come out due to the corona virus, I have also tried contacting three private homes n the area who again will not let us check them out and want to do a video tour. Clearly this is not good enough, I would want to really check things out and make sure they are suitable for Mum but no one wants to know. So going back to where this started, how do I get help? They all seem to be scared to death of this virus. I am not and really do not worry about checking out these facilities and homes, if I get it, I get it. At least this misery will be over because with the pains in my chest and stomach not to mention the fracture in my marriage due to this I cannot see a way out.