I guess there is an assessment for a care home but what happens then, how quick is it? is there a settling in period? when do I start to pay? I already have a joint bank account with mum, she has no savings. Someone told me you don't pay for 6 weeks until the person is settled. I've hit a brick wall with the social worker but the district nurse is coming tomorrow and I think she'll move things. I have decided that I can't manage any more, I feel I owe some of my time to my 4 daughters and their families, I never have a moment for them.