jenniferpa said:Louise
You made me laugh out loud Now I have to wipe coffee off my screen.
Jennifer
Same here Jennifer as your comment about the coffee made me chuckle!!
jenniferpa said:Louise
You made me laugh out loud Now I have to wipe coffee off my screen.
Jennifer
daughter said:Who says you are not allowed to "trick" your Grandad? It's an awful word to use and I suppose that is what we did with my Dad at times but it was the only way we could see to give everyone a bit of space. We found it best not to mention trips anywhere until the last minute - although this may look cruel and even devious perhaps, but your Nan is obviously at the end of her tether and the easier you make it for her now, the better. At least your family will have some time to think about what to do from now on.
This is a terrible time for everyone in the family but hang on there Lousie, we're all here for you.
daughter said:This is a terrible time for everyone in the family but hang on there Lousie, we're all here for you.
merlin said:Hi all
Have also been reading this thread and have in many ways a similar situation insofar that my wife is in complete denial of her AD and therefore refuses to co-operate with anyone.
The problem of consents puzzles me because it seems to me that somebody is interpreting the human rights act a bit too literally. Surely if there is an EPA in force then the carer who has this EPA can make decisions on the behalf of the patient. This must mean that trickery or whatever is irrelevant.
The wording of the my EPA says you are making decisions on property and affairs. I had assumed that affairs meant any affairs for the benifit of the patient.
In the light of this correspondence I shall have to check this definition with my soliciter.
Anybody any definitive info?
I would think that in Louise's case her grandad could be argued to pose a danger to her grandmother because of the effect on her health. What about her human rights! If her grandmother just walked away and noone else volunteered to pick up the pieces the Social Services would HAVE to find him residential care.
Whilst I don't condone it, I can understand to an extent the cases you hear of where people either 'abandon' a relative at A & E or refuse to collect them on discharge from hospital. If you phoned Social Services up and said you could not cope with a child any more they would be obliged to act, what is the difference with an elderly person?!
Brenda (climbing down from one of many soapboxes!)
Grandaughter 1 said:You get on your soapbox as much as you like Brenda, you talk a lot of sense!
I feel really guilty for admitting this but sometimes I wish Grandad would have a small fall or something that would cause him to be admitted to hospital because hopefully that could start the ball rolling. I feel really bad for thinking that but desperate measures and all that......
Cate said:How about asking for respite for your nan, she really sounds as if she is the one who needs the TLC at the moment.
Just maybe this will force the SW into some positive action re support for her at home with you granddad. Or simply saying that Nan needs respite, so what at they going to organsie for granddad?
I agree 150% with 'he who shouts loudest gets the action'.
Cate