Have said this all along of my Dad 78 who has mild cognitive impairment ( at times I suspect Frontal Temporal dementia)
He sabotages almost every aspect of Mum 74 with AD living safely at home.
They do live in their own house behind ours so we keep a close eye.
Insists on carpet mats round the house when Mum shuffles and is at risk of tripping. ( i have fixed them all down)
Plugs in the heater in an unsafe corner of the lounge, saying Mum can walk around it.
Arranges for her to walk on her own to meet him at his club for lunch, when Mum has no traffic awareness.
Leaves Mum at home alone while he walks down to the store, as a result she decides to go for a bath, and doesn't lock the front door.
Has no awareness of what Mum is/is not capable of.
This has truly been highlighted in recent days with Mum developing a bad cold, which has given her a rattly chest, and her GP has put her on anti b's as a precaution so it doesn't devlop into a chest infection.
As a result Mum is very confused and wobbly on her feet.
Was only yesterday he told me that Mum was on her hands and knees picking at the carpet. She thought there were crumbs when it was flecks of white wool in the carpet.
When I said why didn't he phone me or get me, when he has promised all along to let me know if Mum developed any sudden strange behavior, he said he would be phoning me every 5 mins.
Today I have taken a day off work to be with Mum, as Dad insists she is OK on her own while he goes to his club for a few hours!!
I have phoned them this morning, and Mum has burnt her finger on the kettle trying to fill a hot water bottle. I asked Dad why he didn't fill Mums hot water bottle he said because he was in bed reading.
I'm tearing my hair out. Am I totally expecting too much as he has MCI , of Dad as to regards Mums safety here? He obviously doesn't think about potential consequences
He also seems to have a strange sense of loyalty, as rather than not go to his club and stay with his wife who is not well, he is going to help a mate who is in a wheelchair
He sabotages almost every aspect of Mum 74 with AD living safely at home.
They do live in their own house behind ours so we keep a close eye.
Insists on carpet mats round the house when Mum shuffles and is at risk of tripping. ( i have fixed them all down)
Plugs in the heater in an unsafe corner of the lounge, saying Mum can walk around it.
Arranges for her to walk on her own to meet him at his club for lunch, when Mum has no traffic awareness.
Leaves Mum at home alone while he walks down to the store, as a result she decides to go for a bath, and doesn't lock the front door.
Has no awareness of what Mum is/is not capable of.
This has truly been highlighted in recent days with Mum developing a bad cold, which has given her a rattly chest, and her GP has put her on anti b's as a precaution so it doesn't devlop into a chest infection.
As a result Mum is very confused and wobbly on her feet.
Was only yesterday he told me that Mum was on her hands and knees picking at the carpet. She thought there were crumbs when it was flecks of white wool in the carpet.
When I said why didn't he phone me or get me, when he has promised all along to let me know if Mum developed any sudden strange behavior, he said he would be phoning me every 5 mins.
Today I have taken a day off work to be with Mum, as Dad insists she is OK on her own while he goes to his club for a few hours!!
I have phoned them this morning, and Mum has burnt her finger on the kettle trying to fill a hot water bottle. I asked Dad why he didn't fill Mums hot water bottle he said because he was in bed reading.
I'm tearing my hair out. Am I totally expecting too much as he has MCI , of Dad as to regards Mums safety here? He obviously doesn't think about potential consequences
He also seems to have a strange sense of loyalty, as rather than not go to his club and stay with his wife who is not well, he is going to help a mate who is in a wheelchair
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