Hi there
I just wanted a little bit of help and advice.
As I have said before, it doesn't feel as though my dad is dealing with mum having AZ very well and seems to have some funny ideas of how life should be now. Mum cannot be on her own at all but dad doesn't like to admit that and continues to work full time with no real intention to give it up for at least 12 months which is rediculous!!! We don't have anybody helping care for mum even though she doesn't have the ability to do anything for herself, so my sister and other members of family take it in turns each day to take her out and spend time with her. There is nobody cooking or cleaning so dad, bless him, does it all and we know he needs somebody to take over these things for him. Dad is desperate to keep things normal for her but a big part of me thinks it's more for him. I mean no disrespect towards him, I think he is wonderful for what he does, I just get so frustrated seeing mums life disappearing and all the while dad is working, cooking, cleaning and no time is spent making mum's life as enjoyable as possible.
That isn't really why I'm writing though, I just get so tired of trying to help and he will never listen so I am trying to embrace his idea and think of things that might help keep things 'normal' for her. She is desperate for independence and if she is ever alone she often tries to do things like ironing (!!!!!) and has luckily never hurt herself yet but almost always leaves it on. I wondered whether there are any websites or shops that have simple irons that switch themselves off so this problem can be slightly reduced. The other thing is that she has a tendency to leave taps on all day and as they are on a meter, it will end up becoming really quite expensive so I don't know where to look for taps that turn off automatically...
As mum is so young, I can understand why dad would like her to keep her independence but my sister and I know this just isn't right. If you have any ideas of how to get dad to wake up and listen to us, feel free to advise on this also!!! Your help and advice is hugely appreciated.
Love to everyone,
Melissa
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I just wanted a little bit of help and advice.
As I have said before, it doesn't feel as though my dad is dealing with mum having AZ very well and seems to have some funny ideas of how life should be now. Mum cannot be on her own at all but dad doesn't like to admit that and continues to work full time with no real intention to give it up for at least 12 months which is rediculous!!! We don't have anybody helping care for mum even though she doesn't have the ability to do anything for herself, so my sister and other members of family take it in turns each day to take her out and spend time with her. There is nobody cooking or cleaning so dad, bless him, does it all and we know he needs somebody to take over these things for him. Dad is desperate to keep things normal for her but a big part of me thinks it's more for him. I mean no disrespect towards him, I think he is wonderful for what he does, I just get so frustrated seeing mums life disappearing and all the while dad is working, cooking, cleaning and no time is spent making mum's life as enjoyable as possible.
That isn't really why I'm writing though, I just get so tired of trying to help and he will never listen so I am trying to embrace his idea and think of things that might help keep things 'normal' for her. She is desperate for independence and if she is ever alone she often tries to do things like ironing (!!!!!) and has luckily never hurt herself yet but almost always leaves it on. I wondered whether there are any websites or shops that have simple irons that switch themselves off so this problem can be slightly reduced. The other thing is that she has a tendency to leave taps on all day and as they are on a meter, it will end up becoming really quite expensive so I don't know where to look for taps that turn off automatically...
As mum is so young, I can understand why dad would like her to keep her independence but my sister and I know this just isn't right. If you have any ideas of how to get dad to wake up and listen to us, feel free to advise on this also!!! Your help and advice is hugely appreciated.
Love to everyone,
Melissa
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