Think I must be getting this disease - its taken me 10 minutes to remember how to post! Well the consultant did meet us, although the CPN told us he wouldn't be involved and in the end and we were pleasantly surprised - dad even warmed to him because he listened and he didn't pronounce. It seems mum's MMSE score has gone down rapidly in the last 5 weeks - from 18 to 8 last week. She is now talking gibberish most of the time, still having the occasional panics in which she bolts and needs to be off somewhere. It seems unbelievable that a few weeks ago she could still make a cup of tea, now you're more likely to get cold gravy granules. Today she even managed to peg a blouse on the line using her curlers!! As the decline has been so sudden the consultant has reinstated the reminyl which the house doctor had stopped because he thought it was causing the bolting, although it will take her a while to get up to the full dose again. He has also stopped the halperidol which we all agreed seemed to have taken more of her personality away than the AD. He did prescribe olanzipine, which he told us carries a higher risk of stroke, but which he feels is justified given the behavioural issues. We'll see how she goes. Anyway, sorry about the long-winded intro. The next challenge is to get dad to agree to take a break. We think he could do with a week away from mum and I think he knows he needs it, but after 57 years together and her being pretty much dependent on him for the last 5 years he doesn't know if he can bear to leave her. I get the "we're alright, you get on with your own life" routine, but I know most days she has his stress levels up to the limit. I don't want to push him into anything and but we all know he needs a break. I would like to take him to Spain with us next month - he has always really enjoyed his holidays and when mum first got this illness he used to say that it was a real shame that they wouldn't be able to take all those nice holidays they'd talked about. I know that he's torn between wanting to come away and guilt at the thought of leaving my mum. I think in a way he's forgotten how to relax. Do you think a week is too long for the first break - should we try a weekend first? Can someone who is a full time carer actually relax in a weekend? Any thoughts on how I can make it easier for him. I can arrange for mum's sister to stay with her at home with the help of my brother and Crossroads, so there won't be any need for mum to go anywhere for the week at this stage. Any thoughts appreciated.