Hi Everyone,
I am sorry that everytime i come on here it is for help but you are the only people that really know what this is like.
I am in a real mess and don't know where I am going to get the strength from to sort it all out. Dad went into a residential home 3 weeks ago. He is deteriorating, not eating (at all), weight is dropping off, chest infection again (4th lot of antibiotics in 2 months).
My problem is that I don't have an EPA and now I have to sort recievership out. I have siblings that don't do anything, when I say this they disagree! (I am sure you get the idea from previous posts) LAst Tuesday a welfare rights man came to see us Re; funding amd deferred payments. As yet I have refused to sign the paperwork for the first 12 weeks. He tells me that I am right not to sign it as I donot have a legal right to sign it for my Dad and if I do I will be libel for the fees!
I have now recieved a bill from the care home for over £2000.
I know I have to get on and do the recievership but I know I will end up falling out with my siblings for good as I am not prepared to do it with them. I donot want to have to discuss everything with them. see previous posts, a telephone at £120 is too much in my brothers eyes. And on Tuesday when the welfare rights guy was here, my sister was asking if Dad had any money put aside for a funeral if all his money goes on care. He is still alive, I polietely pointed out that if he had no money I would sort it out, I am so flabergasted that she would even question how we would fund a funeral when she has always insisted that his money gets shared out equally, obvioously it doesn't work the other way round!
I think I am answering my own questions by writing this! I have to get on and apply don't I even if I never speak to them again. I just know what will happen, they will turn it all around and say they are too busy to do it and I don't work so i should do it for them.
Sorry for rambling,
has anyone done recievership? or have any experience of doing it in similar circumstances?
How do we come through all of these trials?
I am sorry that everytime i come on here it is for help but you are the only people that really know what this is like.
I am in a real mess and don't know where I am going to get the strength from to sort it all out. Dad went into a residential home 3 weeks ago. He is deteriorating, not eating (at all), weight is dropping off, chest infection again (4th lot of antibiotics in 2 months).
My problem is that I don't have an EPA and now I have to sort recievership out. I have siblings that don't do anything, when I say this they disagree! (I am sure you get the idea from previous posts) LAst Tuesday a welfare rights man came to see us Re; funding amd deferred payments. As yet I have refused to sign the paperwork for the first 12 weeks. He tells me that I am right not to sign it as I donot have a legal right to sign it for my Dad and if I do I will be libel for the fees!
I have now recieved a bill from the care home for over £2000.
I know I have to get on and do the recievership but I know I will end up falling out with my siblings for good as I am not prepared to do it with them. I donot want to have to discuss everything with them. see previous posts, a telephone at £120 is too much in my brothers eyes. And on Tuesday when the welfare rights guy was here, my sister was asking if Dad had any money put aside for a funeral if all his money goes on care. He is still alive, I polietely pointed out that if he had no money I would sort it out, I am so flabergasted that she would even question how we would fund a funeral when she has always insisted that his money gets shared out equally, obvioously it doesn't work the other way round!
I think I am answering my own questions by writing this! I have to get on and apply don't I even if I never speak to them again. I just know what will happen, they will turn it all around and say they are too busy to do it and I don't work so i should do it for them.
Sorry for rambling,
has anyone done recievership? or have any experience of doing it in similar circumstances?
How do we come through all of these trials?