I have just been made deputy by the Court of Protection team, I'm probably wording this wrong, for my mum in law.
My husband was caring for his mum who has dementia, he died very suddenly leaving me and my daughter 27 to look after his mum and her affairs. It's taken a year to get COP as there was no LPA in place. There have been times when I felt so overwhelmed with paperwork endless phone calls etc. She's in a care home. I was told by the people at the office of the public guardian that I could buy gifts for her family for Christmas birthdays etc so long as it didn't deprive her. My daughter is her only grand child and she never gave gifts to her nieces and nephews.
I have discussed this with my daughter, we have made a decision not to take gifts from my mum in law as it doesn't feel morally right, she doesn't know who we are anymore and it would feel like we are helping ourselves. My mum in law was very generous to us in times gone by, but that's gone now. The best gift would be to find a cure for this cruel illness and to have my husband back.
My husband was caring for his mum who has dementia, he died very suddenly leaving me and my daughter 27 to look after his mum and her affairs. It's taken a year to get COP as there was no LPA in place. There have been times when I felt so overwhelmed with paperwork endless phone calls etc. She's in a care home. I was told by the people at the office of the public guardian that I could buy gifts for her family for Christmas birthdays etc so long as it didn't deprive her. My daughter is her only grand child and she never gave gifts to her nieces and nephews.
I have discussed this with my daughter, we have made a decision not to take gifts from my mum in law as it doesn't feel morally right, she doesn't know who we are anymore and it would feel like we are helping ourselves. My mum in law was very generous to us in times gone by, but that's gone now. The best gift would be to find a cure for this cruel illness and to have my husband back.