I havent been to see my uncle for a while, with my school exams it was impossible to manage to get over to see him so my mum had been going on her own for about 5 weeks. I felt terrible for not going but i knew how important my exams were and my mum told me that i was better to study and go and see our friend later. Before the exams my friend couldnt rememeber who i was and only knew me as the lady who changed his bed and helped the 'other woman' my mum to clean his house and take him shopping, we got use to this and he still seemd chirpy and happy in himself,eating quite well so remembering my name was the last of my worries. However, hyesturday was my first visit again since the exams and it was terrible,he had been in bed all day until 3pm when we visited, the food in the fridge was covered in mould and i came to make him a cup of coffee to find two pints of milk which had gone off. all the curtains were closed and although i opened them and opened the windows to let some air in he followed me, closing each one behind me. he has a tablet box and had not taken any of the tablets for this week , when we prompted him he took 2 of them and threw the rest in the bin. He has lost such a terrible amount of weight and i am so worried about him. Today his social worker phned to say she had been to check on him because the doctors had phoned saying he had been creating a bit of trouble there, however when she turned up he was neither at home or at the doctors, he has stopped answering his phone and as all the curtains are closed we cannot see if he is inside. He will not allow social worker in to help him and has refused daytime carers, he says he wants his life to be over and it seems like he is starving himself. Me and my mum went shopping today to try and forget about the upset for a day as the socail worker said she would check on him but when she called to say she couldnt find him and had had to return to the office to see another client our minds went straight back to worry, where has he gone? what is he doing? is he hurt? he doesnt want to go into sheltered housing or a care home and now i am so stuk for ideas, we hae tried phoning before but he has stopped answering the phone. the psychiatrist said he seemed in the early stages of dementia, what is going to happen in the later stages? i want him to enjoy his life but he seems jsut to want to end it.