Hello, I'm here because I just don't know what to do... This all started during the hospital period.
My dad's been in the hospital for over 2 months due to a pancreas infection. After his surgery, he had spent 2 weeks in the emergency room and now became stable enough to be in a normal hospital room...
But when he was in the emergency room he had problems with his breathing which caused the doctors to cut a hole through the neck and insert a tube to help him breath. Of course it was uncomfortable for him and sometimes he would look helpless and tried to forcefully remove it(which he did do once).
Me and my mom would look after him 24/7 taking turns sleeping. The first few days when he came to the normal hospital room he would always close his eyes for 10 minutes and wake up repeatedly. I think he has memory issues at this point because he would ask the same questions over and over again. (It was about what the things in the room were like his medications).
It was manageable then still but after he forcefully removed his tube, the doctor decided that even though he needed it for a bit longer, the psychological stress would be worse in the long run. So now, we're just waiting for his rehabilitation of his legs and throat(for him to eat food).
But he's getting worse and worse each night.. The doctors did prescribe medication but it didn't work. Until now he had tried to take the tape off this throat (it's healing atm) so we would stop him. But I guess he felt attacked because today when we held his hands to he used his strength to try to break free and remove it. He said things to my mom like 'Why are you telling a dead person they're alive?' then proceed trying to hit her when she tries to hold him down so he wouldn't injure himself. The later on he would say 'Why are you trying to kill an alive person(him)?' and got mad at her. He was never this violent before.. Before he would only kick the edges of the bed with his feet like a tantrum. But today.. He tried to twist my arms so I would let go, he tried to hurt mom and used his legs to try to kick us off. We would normally not hold him down if he didn't try to harm himself but he then pilled my hair, call me a crazy bitch over and over and overall it was just really scary. I know today was just a start but it probably will be more intense and I don't know if we can keep doing this and avoid hurting ourselves. He's been in the hospital but he still has the strength to over power us soon and we didn't want to resort to tying him up for 8 hours.
He doesn't really remember those nights when we ask him.. He doesn't remember what he does.
He's suffering from deliriim when he looks up and hallucinates. He thinks the patients next to him are his neighborhood cousins...
I don't know what to do...
I don't know if we leave the hospital if he will stop being violent like today..
If he could just eat really we could take him home and come back when he becomes mentally stable but honestly he came from a 12 hour trip plane ride... So nothing here in this place is familiar to him...
I'm honestly really unsure on what we can do... He can't drink water without a possibility of it going down the wrong pipe. Him drinking water made him feel suffocated several occassions. We have no choice but to let the doctors fix him but idk if he can stand another day without it escalating..
I don't know...what to do...
My dad's been in the hospital for over 2 months due to a pancreas infection. After his surgery, he had spent 2 weeks in the emergency room and now became stable enough to be in a normal hospital room...
But when he was in the emergency room he had problems with his breathing which caused the doctors to cut a hole through the neck and insert a tube to help him breath. Of course it was uncomfortable for him and sometimes he would look helpless and tried to forcefully remove it(which he did do once).
Me and my mom would look after him 24/7 taking turns sleeping. The first few days when he came to the normal hospital room he would always close his eyes for 10 minutes and wake up repeatedly. I think he has memory issues at this point because he would ask the same questions over and over again. (It was about what the things in the room were like his medications).
It was manageable then still but after he forcefully removed his tube, the doctor decided that even though he needed it for a bit longer, the psychological stress would be worse in the long run. So now, we're just waiting for his rehabilitation of his legs and throat(for him to eat food).
But he's getting worse and worse each night.. The doctors did prescribe medication but it didn't work. Until now he had tried to take the tape off this throat (it's healing atm) so we would stop him. But I guess he felt attacked because today when we held his hands to he used his strength to try to break free and remove it. He said things to my mom like 'Why are you telling a dead person they're alive?' then proceed trying to hit her when she tries to hold him down so he wouldn't injure himself. The later on he would say 'Why are you trying to kill an alive person(him)?' and got mad at her. He was never this violent before.. Before he would only kick the edges of the bed with his feet like a tantrum. But today.. He tried to twist my arms so I would let go, he tried to hurt mom and used his legs to try to kick us off. We would normally not hold him down if he didn't try to harm himself but he then pilled my hair, call me a crazy bitch over and over and overall it was just really scary. I know today was just a start but it probably will be more intense and I don't know if we can keep doing this and avoid hurting ourselves. He's been in the hospital but he still has the strength to over power us soon and we didn't want to resort to tying him up for 8 hours.
He doesn't really remember those nights when we ask him.. He doesn't remember what he does.
He's suffering from deliriim when he looks up and hallucinates. He thinks the patients next to him are his neighborhood cousins...
I don't know what to do...
I don't know if we leave the hospital if he will stop being violent like today..
If he could just eat really we could take him home and come back when he becomes mentally stable but honestly he came from a 12 hour trip plane ride... So nothing here in this place is familiar to him...
I'm honestly really unsure on what we can do... He can't drink water without a possibility of it going down the wrong pipe. Him drinking water made him feel suffocated several occassions. We have no choice but to let the doctors fix him but idk if he can stand another day without it escalating..
I don't know...what to do...