Today is not a good day. Mum no longer accepts that the house we live in is home. Up until now mum has been ok if I leave her alone for a few hours, but today she'd got ready to go home, including bagging up clothes. Mum is completely resistant to a day centre (even when I pretend it would be a social club) or carers coming into the house, she won't let friends in if she can help it, she's never been any different. My question is can I make mum accept a day centre and carers expressly against her wishes? I realise I sound heartless, but I cannot live with no freedom, I cannot stay glued to her side without completely cracking up. I'm not sure how to deal with this. It seems mean to force her into something she'd hate, if she told carers to leave could I insist they stay? If she refused to cross the threshold of the day centre could that be ignored? I'm being a wimp, but I can't see the wood for the trees.