First post, so apologies if I don't quite get the etiquette of the forum correct.
Some background:
- My parents live near Belfast, I live in England
- My mum has dementia, very poor short-term memory, gets disorientated easily, becomes unsettled when my dad isn't around
- My dad is great and has a lot of life left in him
- The local council provides a person who comes around for 15 minutes every day to attend to my mum's personal care needs. This has been a big help
The issue:
My dad is finding it very hard work to be around my mum almost 24/7. She can be very demanding asking to know where she is, repeating conversation topics incessantly and wanting to know when she's going home
They were able to get a slot for my mum in a day-care centre for 4 hours a week, which looked like it was going to give my dad some respite. Unfortunately, she's just too unsettled for them to manage her. She's fine one-on-one, but is disruptive in a group environment.
We think she would really benefit from one-on-one attention.
I am quite fortunate in that I earn a decent wage and could comfortably support the private cost of this. However, I am struggling to find an organization that provides this kind of care and support. We have tried a number of local charities in NI who have been helpful in getting us access to the day-care centre, but we really just want an organization that provides someone to sit with my mum for a few hours a day.
Short version:
I don't know how to find someone to come around their home (in Northern Ireland) a couple of days a week for a few hours (say 4) at a time in order to give my dad a bit more respite. Can anyone help or make some suggestions?
Some background:
- My parents live near Belfast, I live in England
- My mum has dementia, very poor short-term memory, gets disorientated easily, becomes unsettled when my dad isn't around
- My dad is great and has a lot of life left in him
- The local council provides a person who comes around for 15 minutes every day to attend to my mum's personal care needs. This has been a big help
The issue:
My dad is finding it very hard work to be around my mum almost 24/7. She can be very demanding asking to know where she is, repeating conversation topics incessantly and wanting to know when she's going home
They were able to get a slot for my mum in a day-care centre for 4 hours a week, which looked like it was going to give my dad some respite. Unfortunately, she's just too unsettled for them to manage her. She's fine one-on-one, but is disruptive in a group environment.
We think she would really benefit from one-on-one attention.
I am quite fortunate in that I earn a decent wage and could comfortably support the private cost of this. However, I am struggling to find an organization that provides this kind of care and support. We have tried a number of local charities in NI who have been helpful in getting us access to the day-care centre, but we really just want an organization that provides someone to sit with my mum for a few hours a day.
Short version:
I don't know how to find someone to come around their home (in Northern Ireland) a couple of days a week for a few hours (say 4) at a time in order to give my dad a bit more respite. Can anyone help or make some suggestions?