getting harder to get mum to go to her day centre

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by bernie, Aug 14, 2005.

  1. bernie

    bernie Registered User

    Jul 28, 2005
    52
    south london
    it is getting harder to get mum to go to her day centre.

    the last couple of days when they have come to collect her she has turned round and said no I'm not going.

    eventually the escort and myself managed to get her to go but mum is getting more bad tempered has anybody got an suggestions as to how to make her more keen to go to the day centre or to make her less bad tempered?
     
  2. noodle31

    noodle31 Registered User

    May 1, 2005
    81
    kent
    hi

    my dad used to be like this.

    we would say to him "look go, give it a try, once you get there if you still dont want to be there they will bring you home" this worked many times, as once he was there he would forget he didnt want to be there.

    else we would make a big thing of having a drive round as dad likes to be a passenger.

    at extreme times where nothing seemed to work mum would ring the day centre and the nurse would speak to him, he seemed to listen to her.

    hope this is of some help

    love Jane x
     
  3. Sheila

    Sheila Registered User

    Oct 23, 2003
    2,259
    West Sussex
    Hi Bernie, my Mum used to be a "helper" Flo would come to collect her and if she was a bit iffy about going, would say something like "Oh but Lily, you said you would help me with....." It usually worked. If she started getting agitated whilst waiting for the mini bus to arrive, saying she didn't want to go etc. Often if I explained it was to help her cope with her memory problems, it would settle her. Sometimes she would be muddled and tell me she was going to school, so I guess she associated the problems with learning. Hope you can find ways round it. The break you get is important to both of you as you need time to yourself, so you have the strength to continue to care. Even if like me, often all you did was sleep following a bad night! Thinking of you, love She. XX
     
  4. bernie

    bernie Registered User

    Jul 28, 2005
    52
    south london
    #4 bernie, Aug 20, 2005
    Last edited: Aug 20, 2005
    thanks for the advice.

    sometimes mum gets very strange she is convinced she works for the day centre and wants to know why she isn't getting paid.
     
  5. Sheila

    Sheila Registered User

    Oct 23, 2003
    2,259
    West Sussex
    Bernie, go with it, say it gets paid monthly into her bank, anything! Love She. XX ;)
     

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