Getting Back To UK From Germany

Discussion in 'Middle - later stages of dementia' started by CatKins 1, Aug 14, 2015.

  1. CatKins 1

    CatKins 1 Registered User

    Aug 1, 2015
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    Hello :) Am going to try and get my sister who has Alzheimer's / vascular dementia back to the UK from a care home in Germany. Things have not been going too well there. This seems like a logistical nightmare... not to mention that my sister may not be able to cope with the journey back. If I leave it much longer it will be too late due to the advanced stage of her dementia. If anyone has any experience of doing this, would appreciate hearing from you with any information/tips. Thank you.
     
  2. DeborahBlythe

    DeborahBlythe Registered User

    Dec 1, 2006
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    Hello CatKins, could I just ask whether you are planning to move your sister close to where you yourself live, or close to other friends and relatives? I am having visions of your sister coming to the UK and perhaps being near to where she used to live, maybe, but not necessarily having any visitors to keep an eye on her. (Just my daft brain going into overdrive) Can you say what the problems in the care home were?
     
  3. Angela T

    Angela T Registered User

    Jul 13, 2014
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    #3 Angela T, Aug 14, 2015
    Last edited: Aug 14, 2015
    Hello Catkins,

    I have experience of moving my mother from a NH in London, to a NH in Lyon, France (in July).

    The journey went much better than I expected, despite cancelled trains because of strikes, and having to spend the night in a hotel and travel the next day - my mother actually enjoyed all the excitement of it all!

    Why do you want to move your sister from Germany to the UK, and what do you mean when you talk about the move being a logistical nightmare ?

    Angela
     
  4. Kevinl

    Kevinl Registered User

    Aug 24, 2013
    4,776
    Salford
    There's a link below to something the Red Cross were doing a while back, you could try asking them, they have trained volunteers, it may be worth asking they may be able to give you some advice if not any actual assistance.
    I assume you're intending to fly which is probably the best thing get it over in a couple of hours but might it be easier if someone in the family could bring her back by car?
    Depending on where you are you could use a ferry to break up the trip, you need only drive from Germany to say Holland, get the ferry to Hull or Harwich, 2 people sharing the driving and you and your sister in the back plus you could fill the boot with her stuff. You may even be able to get a ferry to the UK from a German port, I've sailed from Rostock but that was to Denmark.
    Just a thought it might be a none starter if her health is bad, but if she has a German EHIC card then you could always pull into the nearest hospital if anything happened.
    K

    http://www.redcross.org.uk/About-us/News/2012/March/Volunteers-on-hand-to-help-dementia-patients
     
  5. CatKins 1

    CatKins 1 Registered User

    Aug 1, 2015
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    Hello Deborah, thank you. As my sister does not have any other relatives, I am hoping to move her near where I am living. Can then visit to see how she is getting on. Probably best if I don't put out in the public domain my concerns about the care home. My sister is very vulnerable and on her own in Germany but if the care was good in the home, and she was being physically and mentally looked after, I probably would think it was best if she stayed there.
     
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    CatKins 1 Registered User

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  8. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
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    May I ask where you are going to move her to? If she's in a care home now and with all the problems you mention then she ought to be in a care home here if she can't live with you. Please don't underestimate how confusing a change of scenery and in her case, even country will be. She won't know where she is. She won't be able to live on her own. Can she stay with someone until you've got something permanent sorted out?

    Also, with you not having POA, didn't you say someone in German has it instead? Are they agreeable to you moving her to the UK? You don't want to get into legal difficulties as well as logistical ones. You really need to think this all through carefully.
     
  9. CatKins 1

    CatKins 1 Registered User

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  10. Sue J

    Sue J Registered User

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  12. CatKins 1

    CatKins 1 Registered User

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    Thank you Sue J, will check out the website. :)
     

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