My sister is in a Care Home in Bavaria, Germany. It was not possible or affordable to bring her back to the UK. She is now bedridden, cannot speak or do anything for herself and does not know me. Her care at the Nursing Home seems quite good but there is a limit to how many times I can visit. I received a call last March to say things had deteriorated and I should go there straight away. All I could think was how sad it all is but glad she would have a happy release and be free; but somehow she rallied. The sadness of seeing her in this condition is unbearable and seems cruel to her. Apologies, this thread is not the most uplifting but sometimes it helps just to express how you're feeling while knowing that I am not alone in all this.