It has been a hard couple of weeks for the family since I first contacted the talking point.
The idea re coloured sweets for pills was a godsend.
My Dad has been getting worse rapidly now. We have had to remove all keys from doors but wherever he goes or is he tries different keys and locks doors, even locking Mum outside their house and then not realising that the ringing of the doorbell meant he had to answer it and let anyone in, nor the ringing of the phone.
We managed to get the offer of respite care two weeks ago and I felt very traumatised after leaving him there, lonely and not understanding why I was going without him. Two hours later after comforting Mum and telling her that all was well, I went to leave to go home to my family when on the driveway was my Dad. He told us that no-one wanted him there. We just took it in our stride that he'd returned home, walked the three miles up hill. Made him a cup of tea and chatted as if all was well.
No chance now of encouraging him to go back. He remembers those things very well.
At the moment my daughter has Dad staying with her to give Mum and me a rest but already she has had to phone me ‘cos he wants to leave her and 'go to work' - he thinks his wife is his Mum! He is a little calmer now since we've talked on the phone and told him that the clothes etc in the bag are his and that his daughter, me, has packed it for him.
The nurse at the care home suggested I ask for Dad to be re-assessed and for a stronger dose of medication to be administered as he is only taking 1 lorazapan at night and morning. Can any one give me an idea of what helps in the form of medication so that I am aware of what I can discuss when I take him to the assessment clinic on Tuesday 15th June?
Thank you for listening.
Regards to you all and much love and comfort sent from our family to you and yours.
The idea re coloured sweets for pills was a godsend.
My Dad has been getting worse rapidly now. We have had to remove all keys from doors but wherever he goes or is he tries different keys and locks doors, even locking Mum outside their house and then not realising that the ringing of the doorbell meant he had to answer it and let anyone in, nor the ringing of the phone.
We managed to get the offer of respite care two weeks ago and I felt very traumatised after leaving him there, lonely and not understanding why I was going without him. Two hours later after comforting Mum and telling her that all was well, I went to leave to go home to my family when on the driveway was my Dad. He told us that no-one wanted him there. We just took it in our stride that he'd returned home, walked the three miles up hill. Made him a cup of tea and chatted as if all was well.
No chance now of encouraging him to go back. He remembers those things very well.
At the moment my daughter has Dad staying with her to give Mum and me a rest but already she has had to phone me ‘cos he wants to leave her and 'go to work' - he thinks his wife is his Mum! He is a little calmer now since we've talked on the phone and told him that the clothes etc in the bag are his and that his daughter, me, has packed it for him.
The nurse at the care home suggested I ask for Dad to be re-assessed and for a stronger dose of medication to be administered as he is only taking 1 lorazapan at night and morning. Can any one give me an idea of what helps in the form of medication so that I am aware of what I can discuss when I take him to the assessment clinic on Tuesday 15th June?
Thank you for listening.
Regards to you all and much love and comfort sent from our family to you and yours.
