Hello, I've not been on here for a while, so to do a quick recap, my hubby was diagnosed with Alzheimer's two years ago at the age of 54 here we are two years later and it has progressed quicker than we'd thought. So for example this morning he put the bins out but they don't go out until Monday, so he's a few days early as it's Thursday!! Today in his dosset box he has taken all of Friday's tablets, today is Thursday! he desperately wanted to try and cook the evening meal so I let him (with instructions) and he over cooked everything! I help him as much as I can and he replies to me "don't talk to me like a child" & "you treat me like I am thick or stupid" & "you talk to me so slow like I'm from another country"!!!!
I understand the disease and I know he doesn't mean it when he's talks to me in that way, but that's not really the problem, my problem is my frustration, I am really struggling with how to keep calm when every day he gets things wrong and I have to put them right. When he gets things wrong I don't always correct him because I know that's not the right thing to do, he doesn't know he's got them wrong, he doesn't understand that's ok I get it. My frustration is getting me down and I'm feeling bad about my attitude. I have tried relaxation techniques, I am trying to hold down my job as well, I have tried switching off sometimes but when the 'mistake' has been made I could just scream.... sometimes I actually do!
Any advice please, tell me where I'm going wrong, tell me how I could make it better, tell me how to be a better carer!!
Thank you in advance
Trixxie xxx
Live life to the max!!
I understand the disease and I know he doesn't mean it when he's talks to me in that way, but that's not really the problem, my problem is my frustration, I am really struggling with how to keep calm when every day he gets things wrong and I have to put them right. When he gets things wrong I don't always correct him because I know that's not the right thing to do, he doesn't know he's got them wrong, he doesn't understand that's ok I get it. My frustration is getting me down and I'm feeling bad about my attitude. I have tried relaxation techniques, I am trying to hold down my job as well, I have tried switching off sometimes but when the 'mistake' has been made I could just scream.... sometimes I actually do!
Any advice please, tell me where I'm going wrong, tell me how I could make it better, tell me how to be a better carer!!
Thank you in advance
Trixxie xxx
Live life to the max!!