My mum has vascular dementia + Alzheimers. She "cares" for my father who is elderly and frail because of spinal osteoporosis. For the last 3-4 weeks Mum has called my sister and I (neither of us live near them) just about every day to say "Dad is not well - he has spent the day in bed and doesnt want to eat." We have asked her to make an appt with the GP but she wont / cant do it or says my Dad doesnt want to the the Dr. I have spoken to the GP and called him to visit them before and he is not very helpful - he thinks their problems are "social" and, to be fair, the last time I asked him to visit them my Dad got out of the bed, was sitting dressed and told the GP I was just making a fuss...! My sister and I are at our wits end. It is impossible to know what is actually going on with them and to try to pick through the confabulation / confusion and odd behaviour of both parents. I will be visiting them this weekend but any ideas how to deal with this ???
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- Thread starter Jellybean8
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My mum does the same thing, complains endlessly about how much her knees hurt and she cant move them but if we call a doctor she always tell them shes fine, she lifts her knees and walk much better than wen its just us!!. I think the doc etc uunderstand this but it does infuriate me and makes me feel daft!. All i can say is just keep plugging away until people listen. Hope that helps?? X
