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Discussion in 'Legal and financial issues' started by Mary9, Aug 12, 2017.

  1. Mary9

    Mary9 Registered User

    Dec 12, 2013
    Please can anyone advise, my mom is in a care home with vascular dementia, my sibling, who I have no contact with whatsoever and will not, has been given a job there and when i visit she keeps strutting around and I feel as though she is trying to listen to every word, is this allowed for her to be there,she does not have a carer position.

    Many thanks x
  2. marionq

    marionq Registered User

    Apr 24, 2013
    Rise above it Mary. Don't let it get to you. What if she does listen. Youre not planning anything illegal just visiting your Mum.
  3. Lawson58

    Lawson58 Registered User

    Aug 1, 2014
    Victoria, Australia
    With your relationship with your sister is as bad as it appears, this is your big opportunity!

    You need to be at your charming best. Smile, be pleasant and dignified and you will come out looking like the grown-up. Don't sweat the petty stuff. Your mum is much more important than any silliness there is with your sister.
  4. Oh Knickers

    Oh Knickers Registered User

    Nov 19, 2016
    Hi, frustrating for sure. Lawson has given good suggestions here.

    Whilst you will not believe it at the moment - what comes around goes around. Your sister will, somewhere along the line, show her colours in the care home.

    Keep grinning and share here.
  5. arielsmelody

    arielsmelody Registered User

    Jul 16, 2015
    If you are uncomfortable visiting your mum when your sister is there, is there any way around it - could you visit at a time of day or on a weekend when she is not working, or take your mum outside into the garden or for a trip out, or sit in her room when you are visiting?
  6. Mary9

    Mary9 Registered User

    Dec 12, 2013
    Thank you I know, but it is just frustrating it is my time with my Mom, not hers too
  7. Mary9

    Mary9 Registered User

    Dec 12, 2013
    I know, i am trying very, very hard, but it is my time with her
  8. Mary9

    Mary9 Registered User

    Dec 12, 2013
    Thank you, yes I keep banking on the fact she will eventually show her true colours!!
  9. Mary9

    Mary9 Registered User

    Dec 12, 2013
    Thank you, but I have no idea of when she works or not, mom is now unable to be taken out of the home, and doesn't like to really go outside as she is not too mobile any more, we sit in her room but the home does request that doors are left open

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