I have posted a few times about my MiL, and the replies have been brilliant. After a lot of internet research(!) I think she is suffering from Frontotemporal dementia. I was wondering if any of you good people out there have some advice, thoughts, experiences to share. She is in care, does not want visitors, conversation or any change in the deadly routine. This is understandable and not a problem. I would want routine if I was finding everything as difficult to understand as she probably is. The problem is that she persists is 'wanting to go home' which is impossible, given the dreadful and perilous state she was in before and her total refusal to accept any support. What do we say? She cannot understand or discuss anything. Do we just accept that visits will always be awful? And short.