Morning all, Not sure what I'm after but felt like this was a safe space to get things off my chest. My maternal Grandad has dementia and lives in a care home not far from where I live. My Mum is also local and does lots of the mid-week visiting as I work full-time, she also deals with the financial and legal side of stuff for him. My Mum also goes away on holiday a lot (my parents have an apartment abroad) and near enough every time they are away, there will be some sort of emergency (or perceived emergency) that requires my Grandad to end up in hospital. I've spent hours and hours with him, staying with him on a ward overnight previously, as he can get frustrated and agitated and as he knows he knows me I tend to be a calming influence. The previous hospital visit where I stayed overnight, I had some support from my brother and we managed to get Grandad discharged to prevent a second nights stay. Trying to get my Grandad in the car was difficult, he became agitated and angry with us which is so far beyond his character pre-Dementia. It was upsetting but after a bit of a cry and a chat with my brother I thought I was okay. This weekend I had the dreaded call that he was going into A&E (parents are away again) and so as usual I accompanied him. We weren't there that long this time (he was physically well) but during our time there he needed the toilet and got very frustrated about not being able to get out of the bed (he's unsteady on his feet) and tried climbing over the rails. I managed to get a nurse to help but he got really angry with me in the meantime. It was like he was taken over by a different person, his angry face was almost unrecognisable to me. During the toilet fiasco I even tried helping him with a bottle to pee into something I've not had to do before. The whole experience has left me pretty shaken, I am upset that he was so angry, upset that I got frustrated with him and I'm angry that I can't just be his granddaughter and enjoy him anymore. I'm really sorry for the long post but hope that someone on here can offer some words of wisdom or even just someone who's been in a similar situation. I'm a big crying mess today and don't know where else to turn. Thank you in advance.