My mother has been in a very nice assisted-living facility for three years; she has her own furniture and artwork, and her cat (that cat is as good as ten nurses for her). But my sister and I are looking to the future: Mom is going slowly but steadily downhill with vascular dementia (I can't say "VD," that stands for "venereal disease" in the US and makes me giggle!). Plus, her money will not last more than another two years at this rate, and her very nice assisted-living facility will boot her out onto the very nice sidewalk when the cash is gone. We were told to find a geriatric caseworker, but the one we found just sent us a seniors magazine we could have gotten at a newsstand. We don't want to alarm the assisted-living people by making "moving out" noises . . . Has anyone else had to make this horrible transition, and what did you do? We are looking at this as a last resort, of course: if Mom runs out of money and needs a state home, or if she deteriorates to where she doesn't know who or where she is at all. We hope she will die before either of those things happen, but her parents both lived into their 90s . . .