1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. BazCare

    BazCare Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    33
    Surrey
    Good morning site, my name is Peter and this is my first time here so i'm still feeling my way around. My father was diagnosed last year as having vascular dementia as well as being in the onset stage of alzhiemers, since then his short term memory problems have just slowly worse although on some days he is better than others. I'm hoping to pick up some tried and tested coping ideas here.
     
  2. Blue_Gremlin

    Blue_Gremlin Registered User

    Mar 15, 2006
    89
    Morecambe, UK
    Welcome

    Hi Peter,

    I have only been registered on this site for a couple of months but I have found it invaluable in coping with my grandmother-in-law (Jean) who has vascular dementia.

    I hope everyone on here can help you like they have helped me, and of course I will do my best too :)

    Take care

    Blue_Gremlin
     
  3. BazCare

    BazCare Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    33
    Surrey
    thanks

    Hello blue gremlin and thanks for your responce, 1 important piece of information that i would help on is this, my dad is 87 and is having increasing problems with using his TV, with the modern day wonders of 100's of channels, his cable suppier is unable to understand that when he want to watch BBC 1, he is unable to punch in 101 on his remote control, for my dad BBC 1 should be on number 1, likewise ITV should be on button 3 and so on. This i'm sure must be a common problem, how have others got around it?, and is this the right place to be asking the question?
     
  4. Helena

    Helena Registered User

    May 24, 2006
    715
    My Mother cant even work the remote control at all .......she keeps saying the TV is faulty .....strange she bought it 15 yrs ago and had no problem till last 2 yrs

    Theres always something wrong with phone ...........not that she is so deaf and too stubborn to wear a hearing aid ........no no no


    Same goes for just about everything ......the garage had put somethying in her car ......she called 5 different mechanics to fix it .....it was the fact she did not turn ignition switch on !!!! that was last year and it was May this year before DVLA rescinded her licence


    The modern world simply is not designed for Dementia sufferers and certainly not for them to live alone
    we need a much better attitude and systems of living in the UK

    If we had the USA principal where its generally accepted you move to a retirement village that includes several different settings from independant living right through to full NH and you move through the stages as your situation requires
     
  5. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    5,379
    NW England
    Hello, Peter. Welcome. Does your dad really need all that choice of channels? I seem to have spent the last few months with my mum following a 'de-clutter and simplify' philosophy ...it might seem like denying choice to some degree, but if they can't make that choice independently perhaps it is kinder to limit it to what they can manage... we had thought of buying mum a 'Sky package' last year given TV was her main 'company' - with hindsight, thank goodness we didn't..... we are glad of the days she doesn't insist the 'telly is broken' or 'I can only get one channel' (because she can't always manage the remote for her 'bog-standard' terrestrial TV).

    Are there specific channels only available through cable that your dad really likes to watch? Could favourite channels be pre-programmed 1-10 like numbers on some telephones? (Sorry, not very good on the 'technical' - have to ask my 11-year-old to record anything I might want to watch:eek: )

    Love, Karen (TF)
     
  6. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,417
    I can relate to this - I purchased a very expensive "talking" digital radio for my Mother (press a button and it tells you what it's for) but can she work it? No. In fact, most of the time she doesn't remember that it is a radio, or alternatively, that listening to the radio is an option. The problem with adapative technology for dementia sufferers is that they need to learn to use it, or remember that it's there, and thats almost impossible for them to do.

    Helena - I don't know - I live in the US and I don't think the system is any better here (although I'm sure there are exceptions). There are exceptions in the UK, also. My DM is the owner/occupier of an extra care suite (i.e. a 1 bedroom flat) attached to a nursing home. In this suite she can different levels of care depending on her needs (for a price, of course). When the time comes, she'll move into the nursing home, so there will be continuity of care.

    Jennifer
     
  7. BazCare

    BazCare Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    33
    Surrey
    Tv

    Thankyou both Karen and Jennifer for your responces, using the 'favourites' is a route we have already tried but without any success, the problem is that dad sometimes loses the ability to understand even basic logic, for example, if he wakes up at 2am and its dark outside, he is unable to relate the darkness to the fact that it is still night, so for him to be able to access the favourites on his remote is basically a non starter. For him, logic says that BBC 1 is on channel 1 on the remote, also, at 87 he can’t even punch in 101 fast enough for the set top box to respond. Modern day technology is a wonderful thing, we can put a man on the moon, but we can’t view ITV on channel 3. Does he need 100 channels? no he doesn’t but try telling that to his service provider.
     
  8. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,417
    Peter, does he HAVE to have cable to get a signal?
     
  9. Helena

    Helena Registered User

    May 24, 2006
    715
    "wakes up in the dark he cant relate it to being nightime"

    Oh thats familiar My Mother phoned my sister at 10.30 pm one evening

    " its dark here is it dark where you are ?"
    I have phoned the people to fix it but they cant come till next week

    "If its as dark as this tommorow the gardening girl wont be able to come "


    She bought a new clock but took it back to the shop umpteen times because "she wanted a noise in the night"


    and this is the person who claims they do everything perfectly and have done all their life and its definitely everyone else who is mad
     

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