Hello Cathy,
Distraction is always a more favourable option than confrontation, are there things that you can do together? Looking at old photographs, taking a walk, going out for a coffee?
We're working through the old photos together at the moment but my husband soon loses interest...5 or 10 mins maximum
He will not walk-struggles to get round the house these days
On occasions we go for lunch or coffee-but you can't do that every day..when we do it's never what he wants...food's awful..too hot..too cold..too expensive..
Sometimes I think our own guilt puts us in these situations..all he seems to want to do is watch TV..and he sleeps..today I asked him if he was bored..he said " No..I just don't understand why I sleep as much as I do"...
His world has changed. The way he interprets things has changed. Naturally I have concerns because his mobility is so reduced-but I'm more concerned that he is happy/comfortable/cared for and cherished...he no longer needs the mental stimulation that I need.
I agree re confrontation..never have..never would..but I also know it can try the patience of the carer...and up till now I don't really think mine has been tested..however..that day may yet come.
Cathy,you're so right..there is no easy remedy. Each situation is unique..
The good thing is that we have TP to share our concerns/frustrations/ideas..and the odd good time too.
Love Gigi xx