I've just started caring for a 90 year old lady with dementia. She's still in her own home and her daughter lives next door. The daughter is adamant that pat goes put in her. Wheelchair on fine days. However, pat doesn't like going in the wheelchair and is just as happy sat in her garden. Should pat's wishes be adhered too?
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Yes!
If Pat has capacity she should most definitely be listened to.
The reason we have all the changes to the mental capacity act and also dolls is due to people with learning disabilities not being respected and listened to.
( Obviously Pat doesn’t have learning disabilities! But just saying!)
I have done training, you put the carer in the wheelchair!
Shall we just say ‘ it’s a learning experience’!
If Pat has capacity she should most definitely be listened to.
The reason we have all the changes to the mental capacity act and also dolls is due to people with learning disabilities not being respected and listened to.
( Obviously Pat doesn’t have learning disabilities! But just saying!)
I have done training, you put the carer in the wheelchair!
Shall we just say ‘ it’s a learning experience’!
Do you know why the daughter insists on her mum going out in her wheelchair every day? It might be better to come up with some sort of compromise.
Yes, though I can see why the daughter wants her to go out as it's a good way of giving Pat a change of scene and something new to look at.
The boundary between persuasion/encouragement and forcing her to do something she would rather not is a fine one. If Pat is capable of expressing a view - even if we think there's a better choice to be made - she should be allowed to choose.
Is there anyone else involved in Pat's care who could raise the subject with her daughter?
I enclose a link to @Grannie G compassionate communication.
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Remember the lessons it teaches us can be used on all sorts of people including those without dementia .
Compassionate Communication with the Memory Impaired
The following piece was posted a while ago on DSF and made a big impression on me. It is something I have referred to time after time and tried hard to follow. We have many new members who may not have seen it before. Yesterday I posted it on another Thread but thought it might be helpful if...
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Remember the lessons it teaches us can be used on all sorts of people including those without dementia .
