Thank you for your words of encouragement and support - they really help lift my mood. I think I would feel better if he would talk to me about how he is feeling and start to sort out things like power of attorney but I don't think he is ready yet! He refuses to tell his family until he has his diagnosis -doesn't want to says he has dementia, wants to be able to be more specific?! I just feel frustrated with him because the bottom line is whatever type he has, he is not going to get better. I think he is in denial - if he doesn't say it then it almost isn't real to him. I'm guessing this is a common reaction and I need to stand back and give him time to get his around the whole thing. It is early days yet and now I have TP to support me hopefully I will be able to give him the space he needs until he gets his diagnosis and we can move forward from there. Thanks again.