I don't know what to do - I feel I should be strong and supportive but all I keep doing is bursting into tears. He is only 56. I feel totally useless - I don't know what to do or what to say, probably because there is nothing I can say or do to change anything. Even this e-mail seems wrong because it's all about me so far and I know that although I am scared witless, it must be so much worse for him. Is there anyone out there who can help me take control so I can try to help him through this rather than be the blubbering mess I am right now?