I need a long term plan for the care of my wife and need some help.
I have been onto the alzheimers web site and others and I would say from the descriptions given that she has passed the mid point but by how much is difficult to judge.
Certainly I do everything during the day and at least once or twice a week have bad nights when she is up and down and can be quite aggressive on these occasions. As this is likely to get worse I am not clear how nursing attendance works. At what point does this become so excessive that it becomes necessary that she has to go into a home or can she stay at home.
Then there is the question of cost and facilities. The house despite its reasonable size only has 2 proper bedrooms. I am currently considering an extension, which would give it 3/4 bedrooms. Does nighttime attendance require a bedroom?
As for costs, on the basis of a quick calculation these are going to be large especially in the latter stages. Is there any state help or do I sell half the house?
Although I have done all the usual things via my GP and the memory clinic she refuses co-operate with anything or anybody and if I have to give medication it has to be done without her knowledge(not that I have been prescribed much). A private agency has provided a nurse in the guise of a domestic cleaner for 2 hrs a week and as she seems to have accepted her on this basis. we are proposing to ramp up the attendance so that I can get away for a bit. This is short term however and I feel that I am being carried along by events rather than controlling them.
Sorry to be so long winded
Merlin
I have been onto the alzheimers web site and others and I would say from the descriptions given that she has passed the mid point but by how much is difficult to judge.
Certainly I do everything during the day and at least once or twice a week have bad nights when she is up and down and can be quite aggressive on these occasions. As this is likely to get worse I am not clear how nursing attendance works. At what point does this become so excessive that it becomes necessary that she has to go into a home or can she stay at home.
Then there is the question of cost and facilities. The house despite its reasonable size only has 2 proper bedrooms. I am currently considering an extension, which would give it 3/4 bedrooms. Does nighttime attendance require a bedroom?
As for costs, on the basis of a quick calculation these are going to be large especially in the latter stages. Is there any state help or do I sell half the house?
Although I have done all the usual things via my GP and the memory clinic she refuses co-operate with anything or anybody and if I have to give medication it has to be done without her knowledge(not that I have been prescribed much). A private agency has provided a nurse in the guise of a domestic cleaner for 2 hrs a week and as she seems to have accepted her on this basis. we are proposing to ramp up the attendance so that I can get away for a bit. This is short term however and I feel that I am being carried along by events rather than controlling them.
Sorry to be so long winded
Merlin