I am new to the forums and my mum is 85 and has had vascular dementia for many years.
Not sure if anyone has had this problem – but one of the issues is that my mum can be OK but if she has a nap during the day she can wake up very disorientated and asks where her parents are, where her brother is etc – even though they all died years ago. When she is told that they’ve passed away she goes through the bereavement thing all over again with hours of sobbing etc and saying no-body told her. This is very difficult not only for her but for my father and I as well. Quite often she refuses to believe they’ve passed on and wants to confirm on the phone with other (living) relatives – which she does do so she goes on the phone and they confirm it – but sometimes it’s slow to sink in with her. Then she accuses my father and me of not telling her about their deaths. Ironically some days she does remember they’ve passed away. The only way to reduce the crying is to give her a 2mg diazepam but, although she does take tablets, she’s suspicious of taking them and it takes ages for her to calm down. Has anyone else had this and was there anything you did? I have thought about lying and saying that her parents have gone on holiday or popped into town but she does get very agitated so not sure if she’ll believe that.
Thanks in advance.xx
Not sure if anyone has had this problem – but one of the issues is that my mum can be OK but if she has a nap during the day she can wake up very disorientated and asks where her parents are, where her brother is etc – even though they all died years ago. When she is told that they’ve passed away she goes through the bereavement thing all over again with hours of sobbing etc and saying no-body told her. This is very difficult not only for her but for my father and I as well. Quite often she refuses to believe they’ve passed on and wants to confirm on the phone with other (living) relatives – which she does do so she goes on the phone and they confirm it – but sometimes it’s slow to sink in with her. Then she accuses my father and me of not telling her about their deaths. Ironically some days she does remember they’ve passed away. The only way to reduce the crying is to give her a 2mg diazepam but, although she does take tablets, she’s suspicious of taking them and it takes ages for her to calm down. Has anyone else had this and was there anything you did? I have thought about lying and saying that her parents have gone on holiday or popped into town but she does get very agitated so not sure if she’ll believe that.
Thanks in advance.xx