1. angela.robinson

    angela.robinson Registered User

    Dec 27, 2004
    A little early i know ,but as i will be away ,just wanted to wish you ,
    love and support and strenght, to get you through the ordeal of Rays anniversary next week. I know you are going through a very difficult time just now ,with your dads health as well to worry about .First anniversary are so painfull to get through , and for some can be a turning point , but for others i know it actually can hit you harder. i suspect this will be the case for you , but i hope with all my heart that you will start to see a way foward , i will be thinking of you Alex as i am sure all your virtual friends will be .
    love .hugs and stuff.
    catch up with you soon
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    Dear Alex, I can`t think of anything clever to say but I wish you well and sincerely hope you will have the strength to carry you through this first anniversary.

    With love xx
  3. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    SW Scotland
    Dear Alex

    My thoughts are with you as you approach your anniversary.

    I know how much you've suffered, and I also know how hard you've tried to move on -- and the progress you've made.

    Next Monday will be hard for you. Just try to remember how far you've come; also remember that this will be the last of the 'firsts'. It will start to get easier, I promise.

    My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

    Love and hugs,
  4. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    NW England
    Alex … well not sure which button this is pressing :rolleyes: so forgive me if I get it wrong….

    Tough, tough times ……. then and now ….

    But all I can ask of you at this tough, tough time for you is to recognise and be proud of yourself for the impact and difference you have made on others ….. during your own grief ……. and how much that has been hugely welcomed, admired and appreciated and will never be forgotten …….. and maybe, someday … you will allow some of us to repay some of that selflessness????

    Will be thinking of you ….. as you have done for so many others ……

    Hugest hugs, hugest loves, Kaz, x
  5. maria29al

    maria29al Registered User

    Mar 15, 2006

    Thinking of you ...

    Look after yourself and let yourself feel whatever comes.


  6. alex

    alex Registered User

    Apr 10, 2006
    Thank you Angela, Kaz, Sylvia, Hazel and Maria.

    Its been such a tough year, not helped by my Dad being very ill at the moment and in the same hospital that Ray died in this time last year, it brought back a lot of old memories and feelings.
    My life has changed soooo much over the last 12 months, but i must admit that my journey has been made much easier by the fantastic people on TP.............just wanted to say thank you so very much, don't know how i'd have coped without you all!

    I'm sure Monday will be a tough day, so thanks again girls................. much, much love and appreciation for your support.

    Love Alex x
    P.S. Right button Kaz.....its the FIN (friend in need) button! ;)
  7. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    Dear Alex

    Be strong honey

    Ray knows what you've been through this last year(and more)

    He's smiling down at you I'm sure and feeling so very proud of you....

    Go with the flow hinney

    Lots and lots of love

    Wendy xxx
  8. Grommit

    Grommit Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    Alex, hang on in there chuck. It's important to remember that you did everything you could and did your best for him while he was here. No one could ask more.
  9. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    Alex, be proud of yourself, for coping with the past 12 months.

    I know that, here on TP, we are proud to know you.

    Love n'hugs,
  10. Tina

    Tina Registered User

    May 19, 2006
    Words of comfort are difficult to find for a day like this, Alex, but I hope you'll find a bit of cheer and comfort in knowing lots of people are thinking of you.

    Much love,
    Tina xx
  11. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    hi alex

    so sorry to hear your dad is ill, wishing him all the best for a quick recovery.
    and sending you my good wishes hope monday is not too painfull for you.
    donna x
  12. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    Sending you lots of ((hugs))) for Monday my thoughts shall be with you xx
  13. Libby

    Libby Registered User

    May 20, 2006
    North East
    Will be thinking of you Alex

    Take care

    Libs x
  14. Cate

    Cate Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    Newport, Gwent
    Hi Alex

    What a journey you have had over this last year.

    How you have endured the loss of your soul mate I just don’t know, but through it all you have been one remarkable lady, Ray is so very proud of you I have no doubt.

    I sincerely hope that dad is making progress.

    Here for you whenever you need a shoulder, and I am sending you one big massive hug.

    Lots of love

    Cate xxxx
  15. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    Hiya Alex,
    Just to say thinking of you - cos although Ray's anniversary is tomorrow, I know that you are conscious that it was a Sunday that he died on. Been looking back at one or two threads from 13 months ago. You said
    I am sure that if there is another life after this, Ray is looking at you now, and saying the same of you.

    The night he died you wrote
    I think those people who are fortunate enough to regard you as a friend know that you are already more than just a fraction of what Ray was.

    And one of those tough nights in May I replied
    And that still feels the right thing to say tonight.

    Take care.
    Love Helen xx
  16. alex

    alex Registered User

    Apr 10, 2006
    Thank you Connie, Helen, Cate, Donna, Tina, Grommit, Maggie Libby and last but never least, my little pal Wendy

    Sunday and today have been so tough, i don't think i was as emotional as i felt today - even at the funeral , so it was lovely to sign in to TP tonight and read these lovely messages, i sooooo needed it, thank you, i'm really touched.

    Went to the cemetery today with my friends and we sat on the grass next to the grave, it was lovely and warm and sunny............i was thinking back over the last year, and although i felt so very sad that i'd lost Ray, i've come to realise that i'm still lucky - because i've got such lovely friends.............thank you.

    Love Alex x

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