Canary, Sarasa . Thank you both so much, so glad I came on here , its given me hope . Something happened between me writing my post and coming back on to see if any replies . I had a call from the hospital to advise me that my husband had signed to say he wanted resuss and anything else to help keep him alive . This is the exact opposite of what his unofficial living will said, signed 15 years ago . Im presuming the hospital have mislaid it (it went in there with him when he had a stroke 15yrs ago ) because they are dismissing my questions with a 'dont know about it' and saying my husband was judged by the specialist this morning , to have capacity when asked, to make that decision ,and thats whats important.
So I have to say Im gobsmacked to say the least since only fairly recently OH said after seeing our friend who is in advanced dementia state , that he'd rather be dead than be like that !
Im presuming though , that if he is judged to have capacity for something so important, then there should be no problem with signing off the house sale if he gets his wishes across to the solicitor-which I think he can if she keeps to the point , and then I can consider possibly tackling him about signing a poa. Wow, I thought it would be far to late - and I think it might well be if done via a solicitor. Up till now he has blamed me for putting him into hospital and thinks its all a conspiracy and Im evil, ( he doesnt even really recognise me as his wife except hes been told I am ) but having negotiated his release from the much hated hospital for tomorrow, he might just agree if he realizes that was down to my efforts. Thank you both , Im sure if I can get past the house sale, Ill feel better, and if I can get poa at this stage Ill be over the moon . Of course I know after that Ill have my hands full with looking after him at home so Ill be back on here .
If only one person signs to say they witnessed the signing of a poa, are there no checks on that decision to know just how much capacity my OH had at the time? Sounds quite open to being abused ?
Just another thought , when asked about resuss, would the specialist legally have to tell my husband what was wrong with him to help him make the decision ? Youd get a different answer perhaps if you thought youd had a stroke , than to if you thought you had dementia with no getting better?