Thankyou so much for your lovely welcoming messages, everyone.
So much support here already!
It’s been a very busy week so I haven’t had time to get back onto this forum...until now.
Just a bit about my situation...here goes.
I first started caring when I was 25 years old. My mum had a brain aneurysm and other problems at age 58
Fast forward 33 years....now I am 58 and am still caring...although these days it’s more age-related (my mum is 92!!) and I think, has some kind of dementia.
Of course, in the years between the ages or 58-92, things got a lot better as my mum improved ...but still needed help. So it hasn’t always been as tough as it was for the first few years...and these last few years.
But because the caring role fell onto my shoulders (my two sisters are quite a bit older than me, and had long since left home) ...somehow, I never really got the full opportunity get right out and away from the situation.
So here I am...still living with my mum.
And now I’m knocking 60...I am looking backwards and reflecting on how many years of freedom I have not really had...and resenting this current stage in my life. I feel so so trapped and depressed.
I have no idea what to do.
I feel so sad about even thinking of care homes. My mum is - at times -lucid enough to still be very aware, and able to say no to any suggestion of residential care.
I just have no idea what to do. I want a life without being at someone’s beck and call.
Mum calls me relentlessly some days and I feel like I’m going off my head, she can be so demanding and selfish.
Any input from you good folks would be much appreciated.
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peace, love and light to you all xxx JC