Hi all, incase you read my last thread - I have now stopped crying ! I've been to see dad in the care home, and didn't quite know what to expect, he shed a few tears when he saw me and mum, not for long though. he kept trying to say, in his own way, that this is no good, he needed to go home, didin't want to be there, which I think we all expected but when push comes to shove it is still something you don't want to hear.
I know he is in the right place and so does mum, she still feels lost and is wary that she now has to find things to do, previously her world revolved around dad's needs 24hours a day and now all of a sudden it doesn't. I suppose time is the only way to sort this out.
My sister & mum went to see dad today and Sal said dad looked really well(!) and that made her (& mum) ask themselves if they had done the right thing. When does it feel right?
Dad is extremely quiet with us all, his key worker in the home says he participates with activities, as best he can and he had been for a ride out yesterday (although when we mentioned it - he denied doing anything). When dad was at home, mum used to get the quite & the moods, and when "us kids" used to visit we used to get smiles and acknowledgment - now we don't, I think the roles have changed and the carers get the smiles and we are now classed as been the same as mum - I hope you know what I'm trying to say.
Anyway in the grand scheme of things if saturday was a 0/10, then I think Thursday is a 2/10 - i guess thats good!
Rach
I know he is in the right place and so does mum, she still feels lost and is wary that she now has to find things to do, previously her world revolved around dad's needs 24hours a day and now all of a sudden it doesn't. I suppose time is the only way to sort this out.
My sister & mum went to see dad today and Sal said dad looked really well(!) and that made her (& mum) ask themselves if they had done the right thing. When does it feel right?
Dad is extremely quiet with us all, his key worker in the home says he participates with activities, as best he can and he had been for a ride out yesterday (although when we mentioned it - he denied doing anything). When dad was at home, mum used to get the quite & the moods, and when "us kids" used to visit we used to get smiles and acknowledgment - now we don't, I think the roles have changed and the carers get the smiles and we are now classed as been the same as mum - I hope you know what I'm trying to say.
Anyway in the grand scheme of things if saturday was a 0/10, then I think Thursday is a 2/10 - i guess thats good!
Rach
