Hi, I am after advice again, please! Tomorrow, I will take my mum-in-law to our local mental health day hospital for a first visit. This is an attempt to get a diagnosis for her. Last week, the hospital rang HER directly in an attempt to make an appointment. Unfortunately, due to her condition, she wasn't able to deal with the call. Fortunately, I was on hand to take the call and make the appointment.
After the phone call, I explained what it was all about, and M-in-L got very tearful. I think it was the words "mental" and "hospital" that upset her so much. Earlier today, I reminded her that I was taking her for 'another medical appointment', but I admit I fudged the details. Blessedly, she has already forgotten about last week's phone call and conversation when the M and H words were used.
Now, I do understand the need to be very tactful, and am rapidly becoming accustomed to telling "love lies". But what should I tell her when I come to collect her tomorrow morning? It's very difficult to describe this particular hospital in any other way! I feel that I have to be honest with her to some extent, but I do want to lessen the terrible pain she feels, as she is very much aware of her condition at this time.
TP friends, your wisdom, guidance and compassion would be very much welcomed at this time - thank you.
After the phone call, I explained what it was all about, and M-in-L got very tearful. I think it was the words "mental" and "hospital" that upset her so much. Earlier today, I reminded her that I was taking her for 'another medical appointment', but I admit I fudged the details. Blessedly, she has already forgotten about last week's phone call and conversation when the M and H words were used.
Now, I do understand the need to be very tactful, and am rapidly becoming accustomed to telling "love lies". But what should I tell her when I come to collect her tomorrow morning? It's very difficult to describe this particular hospital in any other way! I feel that I have to be honest with her to some extent, but I do want to lessen the terrible pain she feels, as she is very much aware of her condition at this time.
TP friends, your wisdom, guidance and compassion would be very much welcomed at this time - thank you.