I am new to this site and have not posted before. My mum has vascular dementia and has been in a nursing home for 18 months. My dad has been having problems with looking after himself and it appears he has alzheimers. I gave up my job and have been doing my best to help him for the last year. Following a fall he spent 4 weeks in hospital and has been unable to walk since the fall. I have now got him into the nusing home my mum lives in. I don't have to describe to anyone on this site the misery of watching them suffer and the agony of making decisions on their behalf.