So yesterday marked the first day that my mum would have a carer, specifically for an hour at night while I’m at work just to check on her and see her off to bed, as mum is definitely starting to move into stage 5, if we’re using using the 7 stage theory.
Anyway, I had kinda been wondering as to how mum would react. Knowing mum as well as I do, my instinct was that it would be bad, and so it proved, with mum getting very agitated and allegedly frogmarching carer out the front door and locking her out.
To describe my mum would take all year as she’s so unique, but suffice to say, even after one day, I already think a carer just won't work. Caring agency want to have another carer turn up while I’m at home so that mum can get used to it. But she’s ever going to understand.
Mum has no cognitive ability to absorb new information. Beyond spouting random numbers and saying “it’s all the thing”, mum is unable to speak or understand anything.
Yet she is ferocious about her way of doing things; she has her set routine of things that she is still able to do i.e. cook toast, make tea, clean, have a bath, etc, etc and she will not be forced to deviate from it. She is very physically able and can be like a bull when we go shopping!
But I worry as she has started to smoke constantly - a near-miss fire incident last year is what triggered me getting the gp and council involved. Ash is everywhere, and just yesterday mum burned a hole in her jeans, as she was carrying washing with a cigarette in hand.
I don’t want mum to be stressed out that someone else is in the house - and neither do I want carer's putting up with my mum's hostility - but at the same time I feel like she’s getting to a point where supervision will be necessary. It feels like I’m going to need to quit work altogether unless mum magically becomes more docile, which imo is very unlikely.
It’s such a nightmare right now.
Anyway, I had kinda been wondering as to how mum would react. Knowing mum as well as I do, my instinct was that it would be bad, and so it proved, with mum getting very agitated and allegedly frogmarching carer out the front door and locking her out.
To describe my mum would take all year as she’s so unique, but suffice to say, even after one day, I already think a carer just won't work. Caring agency want to have another carer turn up while I’m at home so that mum can get used to it. But she’s ever going to understand.
Mum has no cognitive ability to absorb new information. Beyond spouting random numbers and saying “it’s all the thing”, mum is unable to speak or understand anything.
Yet she is ferocious about her way of doing things; she has her set routine of things that she is still able to do i.e. cook toast, make tea, clean, have a bath, etc, etc and she will not be forced to deviate from it. She is very physically able and can be like a bull when we go shopping!
But I worry as she has started to smoke constantly - a near-miss fire incident last year is what triggered me getting the gp and council involved. Ash is everywhere, and just yesterday mum burned a hole in her jeans, as she was carrying washing with a cigarette in hand.
I don’t want mum to be stressed out that someone else is in the house - and neither do I want carer's putting up with my mum's hostility - but at the same time I feel like she’s getting to a point where supervision will be necessary. It feels like I’m going to need to quit work altogether unless mum magically becomes more docile, which imo is very unlikely.
It’s such a nightmare right now.