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First day at day centre

LynneMcV

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May 9, 2012
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south-east London
This day has come around much sooner than I expected, but today my husband attended a day centre for the first time.

We took the decision jointly because he is no longer able to get to his Men in Sheds group ( no longer able to understand bus routes on his own) and his fortnightly 4hr group meeting for younger people with dementia is about to be reduced to 2.5hrs through lack of funding.

The only logical next step was to seek out a day centre to help make up some of the socialising loss.

I am pleased to say that it went very well. He enjoyed the entertainment (a singer), meeting new people, games and a two course dinner. There were some folk there with more advanced dementia, some with other disabilities and some with no disabilities but simply wanting to escape the loneliness and monotony of four walls at home.

He doesn't remember all that he did, but he does know that he enjoyed it and wants to go again next week. He certainly seems much brighter this evening than he has been for a few weeks.

I hope it stays that way because I got a call at work yesterday from the early onset group he attends and the leader was talking about everyone going through a review within the next few weeks.

I could tell from the tone in her voice that she felt that my husband would be better off leaving the group now (he has been more confused recently following a spate of UTIs) but I have said by all means do an assessment but to keep in mind that we are working with the Memory Clinic & GP to find the right level of medication (MC suggesting a long course of low dose antibiotics, GP yet to decide).

He loves the early onset group so I am hoping that between medical care and the socialising at the day centre, he will present as less confused at any review they have in mind.
 

Kjn

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Jul 27, 2013
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I'm pleased it went well Lynne , hopefully the early onset group will still be available to him .
 

fizzie

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Jul 20, 2011
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Such good news about the day centre. Lunch club was our life saver!!
My ma went onto low dose antibiotics after a couple of UTIs and we never looked back, she didn't have any after that - more than a year...amazing I don't know why more doctors don't do it. UTIs are so debilitating

good luck with many more day centre days xx
 

LynneMcV

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May 9, 2012
3,835
south-east London
2nd visit to day centre

Today was my husband's second visit to the day centre. He seems to be quite settled and happy with the arrangement.

I have no idea what they did today - but he says he enjoyed it.

I also had the day off work today. I feel guilty saying it but I did enjoy the peace and relaxation. It's a bit like that feeling you get when the kids start school - you miss them and love them, but it feels so great just to have a bit of time to do whatever you want!

I feel quite rejuvenated now - I even had the chance to do a bit of meditation as part of the Mindfulness course I am enrolled on, like several other members of this forum.

I've been busy looking for some other outlets too - I've found a monthly church group for folk with various disabilities who have said we'll be more than welcome to attend - they have entertainment like barbershop quartets and Irish dancing followed by lunch. They meet on a Saturday afternoon, which is great because it won't affect my working days.

I've also found a Memory Cafe nearby (again at a weekend) for people with dementia and their carers. You can get lunch there too if you want. I think I might enjoy it better than the one we currently attend once in a blue moon - time will tell.

I understand they have activities and nostalgia sessions too. I hope it is aimed at all ages, including the younger ones.

My husband is prepared to join in just about anything but at the end of the day he is Scottish, loves music from the 70s and 80s - and as such there are only so many times he is prepared to sing 'Daisy, Daisy' or 'Maybe it's because I'm a Londoner' which seem to get belted out at any dementia venue we attend :)
 

1mindy

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Jul 21, 2015
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Shropshire
That made me smile.I'm wondering when daisy daisy and maybe it's because I'm a londener will be stopped and be replaced with the Beatles or motown or the bay city rollers .Mum died 7 years ago and the songs were too old for her at 80 she like a bit of Rod. Nice to hear your husband is game for trying the social activities. Mine will have none of it.
 

sleepless

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Feb 19, 2010
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The Sweet North
My husband is prepared to join in just about anything but at the end of the day he is Scottish, loves music from the 70s and 80s - and as such there are only so many times he is prepared to sing 'Daisy, Daisy' or 'Maybe it's because I'm a Londoner' which seem to get belted out at any dementia venue we attend :)
I know what you mean!
One day it will be Led Zeppelin perhaps?
Not my cup of tea either, but I wonder what will be considered the most popular for each era?

I think I may get a tattoo -- 'peace and quiet suits me fine, thanks' in case I have to go into permanent care. One's preferences could get overlooked in one's care plan, but maybe somewhere discreet but viewed on a daily basis -- it could work!
 

LynneMcV

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May 9, 2012
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south-east London
Haha. I just trying to visualise myself in later years either swooning to the dulcet tones of Donny Osmond or doing my teenage 'rockin dance' to Status Quo's 'Rockin' All Over the World'. I think there might be a slipped disc or two but still sounds like I'll be having fun along the way :p
 

Kjn

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Jul 27, 2013
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I hope it isn't daisy daisy when our turn comes, we wouldn't know the words:eek::D
 

LynneMcV

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May 9, 2012
3,835
south-east London
Oh talking of dance moves I 'd be pretty good with tracks from Grease. I have the lyrics and moves to 'Greased Lightning' perfected. Might need to work on my moves for 'You're the one that I Want' though but I could still belt out the lyrics, no problem :D