It seems longer than two weeks that mum's been in the home. The first week was very difficult as we couldn't visit her. We were advised that this would help her to settle. So far the advice that the home has given us has proved to be right. So we stayed away until they thought Mum could cope with seeing us. This came earlier than we expected so we were really pleased. I am off work at the moment so I have been every day this week , just short visits. At first it was very upsetting to see my Mum sitting there with everybody else. I thought she looked lost amongst them all and that a spark in her had gone out. Guilt, Guilt, Guilt, heap it upon ourselves
As time passes and at each visit I feel a bit better about it all. Mum seems to be more settled and even has her prefered chair to sit in now and gets a bit tetchy if someone else is in it!!!. The other day I took all required to was her hair. She enjoyed having her hair done. Afterwards I got her to put some lippy on. When we got down stairs the staff mayed a fuss of her as she looked smartend up a bit, Mum loved this attention.
A couple of day's ago I took my dog for a visit, obviously i checked this out with the home and they encourage visits from well behaved dogs. Mum loves animals and has always had dogs and cats. My dog recognised mum straight away but mum did not seem to recognise the dog!!! Lots of the other residents wanted to pat her and talk to her which was fine. One lady said " come over here, can i give your pussy cat a crisp?"!!!! Bless her. I think they all got a lot out of it, especially the dog!!
There are a few things to iron out with the home like, bathing (she will say she does'nt want one!), getting dirty cloths of mum (she hides them!) underware ect ect.
It's early day's and they are getting to know mum so i supose there are bound to be the ocasional hicups. Over all I feel that she is being well cared for, mum seems more settled with the situation. (so far she has'nt asked to go home) We havn't taken her out in the car, we are a bit nervous that it might spark off a 'going home' thought. Small steps at a time. We are absoloutly amazed that we havn't had a significant problem. Mind you as I said that i touched wood!!!! sazzle
As time passes and at each visit I feel a bit better about it all. Mum seems to be more settled and even has her prefered chair to sit in now and gets a bit tetchy if someone else is in it!!!. The other day I took all required to was her hair. She enjoyed having her hair done. Afterwards I got her to put some lippy on. When we got down stairs the staff mayed a fuss of her as she looked smartend up a bit, Mum loved this attention.
A couple of day's ago I took my dog for a visit, obviously i checked this out with the home and they encourage visits from well behaved dogs. Mum loves animals and has always had dogs and cats. My dog recognised mum straight away but mum did not seem to recognise the dog!!! Lots of the other residents wanted to pat her and talk to her which was fine. One lady said " come over here, can i give your pussy cat a crisp?"!!!! Bless her. I think they all got a lot out of it, especially the dog!!
There are a few things to iron out with the home like, bathing (she will say she does'nt want one!), getting dirty cloths of mum (she hides them!) underware ect ect.
It's early day's and they are getting to know mum so i supose there are bound to be the ocasional hicups. Over all I feel that she is being well cared for, mum seems more settled with the situation. (so far she has'nt asked to go home) We havn't taken her out in the car, we are a bit nervous that it might spark off a 'going home' thought. Small steps at a time. We are absoloutly amazed that we havn't had a significant problem. Mind you as I said that i touched wood!!!! sazzle