I was looking to get some advice or general thoughts about our current situation with mum as a bit of a dispute has arisen about the best way to manage her. I reaslise this is along a similar thread as Davina's but I didn't want to hijack her post, plus at mum has FTD it does throw a slightly different light on things. Mum's speech is almost non exsistant now, although when she tries very hard she can get odd words out. My aunt (who is a psychologist) took mum out for the day on saturday to give dad a nice long break. She says that we should force mum to find the words and not answer for her or make decision for her. She seems to think she could try harder to communicate. My dad appears to have the opposite view and answers for mum a lot and makes almost all decision for her as his view is that her life is difficult enough - why make it worse by causing her anxiety by insisting she makes really rather inconsequental decisions. I really don't know - truthfully most of the time I do it dad's way as it's quicker and seems easier for all concerned. Any thoughts?