Hi. I couldn't find a thread about this - though I'm sure there are a lot of overlaps in almost every thread. But anyway, I'm just wondering if there are carers out there that as well as caring for a friend or family member are also conscious that they need to get on with their own life and how they go about this. I only ask as I'm in this situation now and at first i didn't really think about it but after over 2 years of caring I've started thinking a lot lately about my own life and that it's going nowhere and isn't likely to....also it's probably worse as I'm in my thirties now especially during the last few years a lot of people I know/knew have got married etc. So I'm just wondering how people find the balance between having their own life and caring. Or is that not even possible? Basically I get no help from anyone else whatsoever it's either me - or- well I don't know what would happen. I know this might seems bit selfish, but at the same time I guess it's a perfectly normal reaction. Especially as I reach The age of reason. Anyway, please let me know what you guys do and think and if don't want to post here - please feel free to send me a PM. Thanks.