I haven’t posted for a while. My husband has been in the Care Home for a year now. The dementia is getting worse. Of course I know it can’t get better but I am beginning to feel that I can’t bear to see him anymore.
His mobility has reduced to the point where he has to be assisted from bed to chair and chair to wheelchair.
He is now double incontinent. He gets very angry with me when I visit and demands to ‘go home’.
He talks nonsense most of the time and asks about people who are long dead.
After 3 and half years I am wondering how much more I can take. I know many people can’t afford to put their loved ones into care and that makes me feel more guilty. That’s why I visit almost every day.
I have seen a counsellor but I have friends that I can talk to that don’t charge £50 a time! What I really need is someone to tell me what to do because I’m struggling to get through each day and to sleep at night.
Any words of advice or understanding will be welcome.
His mobility has reduced to the point where he has to be assisted from bed to chair and chair to wheelchair.
He is now double incontinent. He gets very angry with me when I visit and demands to ‘go home’.
He talks nonsense most of the time and asks about people who are long dead.
After 3 and half years I am wondering how much more I can take. I know many people can’t afford to put their loved ones into care and that makes me feel more guilty. That’s why I visit almost every day.
I have seen a counsellor but I have friends that I can talk to that don’t charge £50 a time! What I really need is someone to tell me what to do because I’m struggling to get through each day and to sleep at night.
Any words of advice or understanding will be welcome.