Hi, I've been caring for my dad for around 10 years now, he's lived fairly well with vascular dementia on his own and I live 3 miles away with my family, which is what he wanted. However, his dementia has been progressing rapidly this year and, although I have reduced my working hours to 12 per week, dad needs someone with him pretty much all the time he's awake. So I now have a lot of paid help to the point the only time he's alone is when he's in bed and for 3 hours 9-12 three days a week while I go to work. However, he is now suffering from panic attacks. A lot. After searching for a pattern I'm beginning to think they are triggered by being alone. I have been to my go to discuss the fact that as we can't afford long term live in care, residential care is our only real option. But we have been told that there is no facility to suit his needs - fully fit and mobile, constantly requiring stimulation etc. Where do I even start looking for suitable care in these circumstances?