Finding a good care home

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by gundo, Nov 16, 2005.

  1. gundo

    gundo Registered User

    Mar 23, 2004
    Southampton, UK
    How does one go about finding a decent care home. My starting point has been sticking a postcode into the Commission for Social Care Inspection's website.

    But how do you get recommendations? I'm getting desperate to find somewhere nice for a parent (they will be self-funding).
  2. graniedeb

    graniedeb Registered User

    Nov 16, 2005
    Ashtead Surrey UK
    I have also been trying to look for a good home for my mum. Ended up by looking for homes that deal with residents with Elderly Mental Impairment (EMI homes). The reason i looked for these was because I understand they have to have staff that can deal with dementia and other mental problems.

    There seems to be a great deal of difference in the price but I a imformed that is due to the amount of personal care time required for each applicant. Hope this helps graniedeb in surrey
  3. Kathleen

    Kathleen Registered User

    Mar 12, 2005
    West Sussex
    My Mum is also self funding and we had to find a new care home back in the summer as she was wandering away from the one she was in.

    I looked at the same site you did and made a list of a few homes that are EMI registered. We visited some and chose the one Mum is in now on the basis that it "felt " right for her. Though not the cheapest available, Mum deserves the best care possible.

    The staff were happy and had mostly worked there for a long time and the residents were in a lounge with music playing and were being encouraged to stay awake.
    Some homes we saw had rows of residents asleep in rows with a television playing to itself in the corner and staff were nowhere in sight.

    We asked lots of questions, all of which were answered without hesitation, we also visited randomly a few days later and this confirmed our initial impression of the level of care. This home has worked out well for Mum and we have had no cause to complain at all.

    Maybe we were lucky, but hard as it was to leave my precious Mum in the care of strangers, and I wept buckets when she moved, it has worked out well for her, hopefully you will find a good place too. Don't rush into it, but be guided by your instincts.

    Good Luck

  4. Kriss

    Kriss Registered User

    May 20, 2004
    Ditto to what Kathleen said!

    The funding/cost issue is interesting as Aunt is self funding and yes the fees were higher than in her previous residential home however it seems she now qualifies for Government funding of some sort and this means she is now paying less than before!

  5. Sandy

    Sandy Registered User

    Mar 23, 2005
    Hi gundo and graniedeb,

    Welcome to Talking Point.

    I would also agree with what Kathleen has said. By the time you have spoken with and visited half a dozen EMI homes, the differences will really be clear to see.

    It may be that members of your local Alzheimer's Society branch will have recommendations but even then, so much of it is down to individual preferences which may not reflect your family's choices.

    Take care,

  6. CraigC

    CraigC Registered User

    Mar 21, 2003
    #6 CraigC, Nov 17, 2005
    Last edited: Nov 17, 2005
    Hi Gundo,

    you may want to check this thread out.

    I can't recommend the Elderly Accommodation Council and the Alzheimer's society highly enough. They gave me a lot of contacts and then it was more of a process of elimination, firstly by phone and then leg work. The more places you can visit the better. Make absolutely sure that your parent will fit in. Before picking up the phone, make a list of questions and make sure they are all answered!

    The good news is that there are some very good care homes out there. If you can, you should also try out some respite or go for a trial period.

    Good luck
  7. Claire

    Claire Registered User

    Mar 31, 2004
    Just to say that Craig is right - there are some very good care homes. Sadly, we don't hear too much on the positive side, only the horror stories. When we went to visit the home Mum is now in, we were tremendously impressed by the facilities and particularly by the staff. We weren't wrong - after a year or more, I cannot praise the home highly enough, and the staff give all the residents excellent, loving care.

  8. Dave W

    Dave W Registered User

    Jul 3, 2005
    Same scenario, different dilemma

    I too am currently in the process of trying to find a suitable care home (my Mother is currently in hospital).

    Does anyone have experience of using agencies to help with this process - I'm being offered a one-off price of £375 to research suitable homes with vacanies, incl. 30 min consultation with me.

    As I'm currently working c 12 hr days and werstling with all the other practilities (post forwarding, banks and bldg soc, EPA, rehousing pets etc.), this is an attractive proposition in many practical senses, but I'd like to know if anyone else has used such a service and what there experiences were.
  9. Geraldine

    Geraldine Registered User

    Oct 17, 2003
    I don't know about anyone else but when I was looking for somewhere for Mum I think I would have jumped at this for someone else to share the pain.

    What on EARTH do we pay the Social Services for? THEY should be doing things like this!

  10. ginger

    ginger Registered User

    Nov 13, 2005
    NE Lincs
    How to find good care homes

    I was a lay assessor for the inspection unit, which proved to be useful when looking for a care home for my mum who has AD. Although the inspection reports are useful, I would pay several visits at different times unannounced, try to speak to other visitors, ask lots of questions from staff. I did this and it has payed off, my mum is now in a EMI unit in Stevenage, I am of the opinion it is important that staff are trained and understand the complexities of AD in order for our loved ones to recieve the best care that is available. My mother is very ill at the moment and unfortuately we have had to spend several nights and days staying with Mum as she nears the end. I feel very fortunate that my mum is in this particular care home because the care provided is excellent both day and night. I do hope you are as fortunate as I was and obtain the best care and support you can for your loved one

    Take Care
  11. Lynne

    Lynne Registered User

    Jun 3, 2005
    Quotes from 'Mary Poppins' - The day has come

    Just thought the following 'Before & After' account might give some comfort to anyone going through that interim stage of getting some outside help. There ARE good care homes out there, but the bad ones get in the news horror stories. I'm sure not everyone adapts easily & quickly, but some get on unexpectedly well, as Mary P's father did. (I realise this thread was about respite care, but I don't believe they would have treated full-time residents any differently)

  12. EllieS

    EllieS Registered User

    Aug 23, 2005
    I really wish I'd had a choice of EMI Care Homes - but there was only the one close enough to where I live and work to enable me to visit Mum often.

    My husband and I run our own business so work long hours and visit Mum most often at about 8.30 - staying to tuck her in and kiss her goodnight.

    The next nearest EMI home was half an hour away - making an extra hour's journeying!

    Mum seems to be fairly contented - but this really depends on the staff on duty at the time. I'm very happy because if there's a prob lem I can reach out and touch her - she was 60 miles away in the previous Residential Home!

    But if there's a choice just look and look, narrow it down to the favoured few, visit at odd hours, have your eyes and nose open then.......



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