The time has come for mum to move to a nursing home. We have been advised on nursing and not residential due to mums needs and dwindling function/confusion/distress.
My sister had been round to look and a short list of 2 has been identified. Dad visited both yesterday with her and has identified out the one he thinks is just appropriate. He is engaged and is thinking/deciding. I expect my brother will visit soon to see the place and I am going to contact them and see if I can have a telephone call with the new resident manager. I am hoping that I will be able to get a walk round via Skype or FaceTime. I use it for my work and it makes things easy. Don't see why the home can't do the same. Embrace technology
So next steps. I think we need to understand the following.
Cost and how it works. Mum will be self funding initially. Does she self fund until every penny is spent and what happens when the money runs out? Can she stay until the end (I believe the selected place will keep her until she passes).
Activities and potentially mum continuing with some of her activities.
Getting in touch. Will she have a phone (I don't think it's a good idea) but is there a communal phone. Do they have the facility for Skype or FaceTime calls.
Visiting. Hours or flexible.
Moving day...how will it be managed.
Medical matters.....own doctor, own dentist, continued appointments for other matters?
Clothing.....furniture......personal possessions......
There will, be more that I have even thought about.
Any guidance from your wonderful folk would be appreciated.... What am I missing.
Edit....how will they assess or decide if they can have mum. What if mum is having a reasonable day when they assess and then when she arrives she is really struggling and is at her worst. Can they ask her to leave. And any idea from assessment to how long before she may go into the new place.
My sister had been round to look and a short list of 2 has been identified. Dad visited both yesterday with her and has identified out the one he thinks is just appropriate. He is engaged and is thinking/deciding. I expect my brother will visit soon to see the place and I am going to contact them and see if I can have a telephone call with the new resident manager. I am hoping that I will be able to get a walk round via Skype or FaceTime. I use it for my work and it makes things easy. Don't see why the home can't do the same. Embrace technology
So next steps. I think we need to understand the following.
Cost and how it works. Mum will be self funding initially. Does she self fund until every penny is spent and what happens when the money runs out? Can she stay until the end (I believe the selected place will keep her until she passes).
Activities and potentially mum continuing with some of her activities.
Getting in touch. Will she have a phone (I don't think it's a good idea) but is there a communal phone. Do they have the facility for Skype or FaceTime calls.
Visiting. Hours or flexible.
Moving day...how will it be managed.
Medical matters.....own doctor, own dentist, continued appointments for other matters?
Clothing.....furniture......personal possessions......
There will, be more that I have even thought about.
Any guidance from your wonderful folk would be appreciated.... What am I missing.
Edit....how will they assess or decide if they can have mum. What if mum is having a reasonable day when they assess and then when she arrives she is really struggling and is at her worst. Can they ask her to leave. And any idea from assessment to how long before she may go into the new place.
Last edited: